Sorry for T/J, that poster is starting to stalk people on other threads.

Am I reading the same thread as you? Most every response you got was positive, with just one person giving you the persective of what when on in his childhood. You're right, you do sound defensive. Are you truly comfortable with the situation? If you are, were you posting here looking for input (which it doesn't seem you want - but I could be totally misreading)? Or were you just sharing the situation with us?

So many threads here are based on advice giving and perspective sharing, so if you were just informing us of your holiday plans it may have been misread as looking for advice.

I think it's admirable what you're doing for the kids, as long as the kids are ok with it.

Have a merry christmas!