I guess that's where we differ then. It may be possible or even probable that a man can decide on commitment early on but for me it takes longer. I do prefer to meet men in groups the way you describe, but I would need to go on a few one-on-one dates before I made a decision to to stick with one particular man or to move on. Not that I have much experience with this LOL - I've been married most of my adult life. But even among the single men that I currently know through various activities, I couldn't imagine making any kind of commitment on any level without getting to know them better one-on-one first. And some of these guys I've known for years and even decades so it's not like I don't trust my first impression of them or anything.