Patriot - You know that I'm divorced, so take this with a grain of salt. I got so tired of fighting for my marriage, with hubby continuing on his path.

If I were you, I would put your wife on the house deed. I would sign a paper to help pay for college for your son.

The problem (for me) is that this stuff has happened over again. The stakes keep getting raised.

You need to figure out that your marriage has been forever changed because of your actions. You will need to take EXTRAORDINARY PRECAUTIONS from here on out - and that includes not doing anything that could lead to an affair, or anything that could be PERCEIVED to lead to an affair.