nyk, my concern from reading your post is that you presented his adultery as a syndrome instead of what it really is: SIN. Kids need to be told the truth, including the name of the adultery partner, and to be CLEARLY told that adultery is a SIN and WHY is it wrong. As parents, it is our job to teach them right from wrong.

Whitewashing this will cause moral confusion and will enable her to grow up and justify her own SIN with cute little labels, etc. If y'all can do this with adultery, she can dang sure do it with drug use when she is 16. You don't want to teach her to do that. There is no justification for adultery and she needs to be told that in PLAIN LANGUAGE.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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