Originally Posted By: eric292
Originally Posted By: inrecoverynow
YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO TAKE AWAY THE ABILITY OF YOUR SO MAKING AN INFORMED DECISION ABOUT MARRIAGE. YOU ARE PLAYING WITH HER LIFE. IT IS SELFISH AND INEXCUSABLE.


There is no point in asking for forgiveness in you...LOL...But holy frick I had no clue I was such...I know not a 'bad person'...But I do not like doing things that are inexcusable...Bethany is coming over this evening...I will show her this thread IMMEDIATLEY.

Edit...Some of this seems so odd to me...Like I am a really screwed up person. I am viewed, by peers, as a generally okay dude. It really freaks me out to find out how screwed up I am...Not that I allow outside opinion to make me feel great..I am just saying; I didn't realize I was so...Nevermind that is being in self-pity...I just need to start medicating myself? IN proper healthy ways...I am not one of those people to be like; "okay, i'll get right on it...and quit two weeks later...frick that".

<3 to you people...

<--scared crapless...*sigh*

To be honest...I am fricken SA...Oh gawd...

I am in such distress, I can't stop checking this forum...lol...I will post again after this evening...I have also given this URL to my therapist.


Nope, don't ask me for forgiveness. But it took me 18 months for me to forgive my husband.

You are not a screwed up person. My husband has a ton of pluses going for him:he volunteers selflessly, he's smart, he's caring, etc etc. He's just made some poor choices.

There's no need to medicate yourself. CBT is all my husband needed to STOP medicating himself.

I personally do not believe that mentally/emotionally women choose to marry using addicts.

You marriage will be easier if you can deal with this stuff before you get married..

You likely have no clue about lots of things outside of you, because, addictions are a very selfish thing.

Last edited by inrecoverynow; 04/14/09 01:09 PM.