It's really difficult as both of us are 24, and we're still studying. I have sufficient
savings to have a small ceremony (to have a proper solemnization in God's eyes) and to
ROM (go to the Registry of Marriage) as well.
However, he says he's not ready - and that he will be in 2 years.
That we will get married in two years. To trust him and all -
He has his reasons, one of them is financial - and he has plans of a big
wedding/proposal/ring etc.
I want to be able to live with him as distance is putting a strain on our relationship.
We're not sexually intimate - he has pulled away thus far - cutting down on affection a
lot because he doesn't want to lead both of astray - because it feels guilty to go beyond
french kissing and all
now he's cut down affection to a lot less. hand holding, pecks on cheek, short hugs. and
i want to have all of that. one of my top love languages is physical touch followed by
time & attention, then words...but they're all linked

as you said, i've quoted for him too - i don't want to burn with passion anymore that it
is better to get married - and i told him proverbs 13:12 also - about hope being deferred
and that my spirit's getting crushed.
i spoke to my mum abt it - my mum asks me to wait for him to be ready, to respect him.
his mum n i are also close, his mum said no point rushing him - because he will - do it
out of obligation (and even he said so himself)
and so is there nothing else i can do but wait? i've been crying on and off and it's been
a rollercoaster.
I really don't know what to do. I believe I have been at some fault as well. Separate for
awhile? I don't know if it'll work - and I think it'll be harder on me than it is for him
- but I might be wrong. I am definitely the dependent/needy one in the relationship. he
says he wants to marry me most definitely, but not at this point in time...2 years is all
he asks for.

thanks for praying