Here's a great first place for you to start working on those issues:
When someone does something that triggers my insecurity and makes me feel off balance
No one makes you feel. YOU feel. YOU choose to react (yes, you do).

The secret to this is to stop being the victim, stop thinking that anyone has any power to make you feel anything. They don't. They just do what they do; YOU react.

Now, if someone always does things that you don't like, stop being around them! But don't make the mistake of thinking you can change them.

Victim mentality is nothing more than giving away your responsibility. Sure, it's comforting to be able to say 'it's not my fault!' but, in the end, who are you hurting by doing that?

I know you know this; I'm just putting it out there so you can remember it more easily. wink