catperson, I would just point out that this is MARRIAGE BUILDERS. The purpose of the forum is to learn about MARRIAGE BUILDERS.

Where in any of the MB literature does it indicate that "quitting military, quitting school, and giving up friends just to appease your spouse" is a "dangerous" pattern?

That is an absolute contradiction of Marriage Builders concepts as I know them. Can you cite your source for this "advice" on Marriage Builders?

I have been here for almost 10 years and have never seen any such thing. That sounds like your agenda, rather than that of Marriage Builders.'

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