Me and my wife have been together for 11 yrs married for 4 of them. We are both 26 yrs old, yes we were high school sweethearts and have been eachothers first and only. We have both hurt eachother in the past 2-3 yrs (not cheating emotionally. Most of it was my fault for not being around. I enjoyed going out with friends and didnt consider her feelings. She made me realize what I was doing to her by leaving her at home. I realized that I was being an ass, so I changed it and have realized recently that I need her more than anything. But now that I have changed and am working hard at it, it seems like she is drifting farther and farther away as the days pass. We never have sex (not from lack of trying). She says it just doesnt even interest her anymore. I kiss her touch her and hug her all the time. I compliment her everyday. I get nothing in return anymore even though I told her I would like for her to simply grab my hand or come to me wanting sex. In our first 9 years together she was lovey, touchy, feely, etc and now nothing. I sometimes feel like she is doing it because she sees me trying so hard and she is just being stubborn as a way of control.. ladies, any idea what I can do to get the love back? I am affectionate and I miss it so much from her. I try and be romantic as possible by leaving her notes in her purse or car, cooking supper, lighting candles in the bathroom with music going and a warm bubble bath, but it seems like she just does not appreciate it anymore. I would like to make love to her every single day. I want her to think of me as her man again...