I'm sorry to hear that you and your wife are having trouble. If you haven't already done so, take some time to read over the information here...


Though I'm hardly an expert (this is my first post), I would suspect that your wife, much like mine,

1. Doesn't view physical affection, whether sexual or not, as one of her most important emotional needs. We tend to express love in the way that we like to receive it, and when we don't receive positive feedback, wonder why our earnest attempts are being rejected.

2. Your wife may be thinking that your attempts at affection have a hidden agenda. Though your intentions may be good, you may be worsening the situation.

I'm the same way and my situation is similar, so, for what it's worth, you're not the only one. You might try posting your query in the "Marriage Builders 101" area:


I think this one is more for ideas on how to make something romantic (a romantic date or vacation). You'll probably get better, more enlightened responses, in the area I posted above.

Hope this helps.

Me (BH)
Married 2000, DS 8, DD 6, DD 2