Hey, I was only in for 5 days! I've got some catchin' up to do!

Just kidding, of course - and yes, I sure do agree with you that lawsuits for pain and suffering ought to be part of this.

Any spouse who is really and truly not happy in the marriage always has the option to simply leave and file. That's one thing - but they hardly ever do that.

It's not so much the leaving *in itself* that causes the damage. It's the fact that the WS tries to have both a marriage *and* a single life all at the same time. It's the lies, neglect and gaslighting that goes on while the WS decides to have cake and eat it, too. That is a dreadful way to treat another human being - just as part of a crowd to serve his/her needs - and *that* is where the damage comes in.

The BS should be able to sue the WS for Gross Marital Neglect, and sue the OP for Gross Marital Intrusion. Forget "alienation of affection" - everybody just laughs at that. But Neglect and Intrusion - well, the average person might actually understand that.