[quote=MelodyLane
My suggestion would be to put off negotiation until you become more skilled. Start with the small stuff first like grocery shopping before you tackle the tough stuff. [/quote]

ML.. I agree in part with what you have said and I as much told her that I was being an IB'er. I do recognize that but in the meantime I still need to address the problem at hand.

If I had the luxury of putting off the tough stuff then I would, unfortunately reality gets in the way of luxury and I am faced with the impending decision as to what to do with or how to handle the decision regarding my career.

Vib... thanks for the help and guidance towards making the right decision