Wow, Retread. Thats so needed these days. I wonder if the problem is that few of us have hope that the conditions in your last paragraph will ever be met, that well find someone who shares your values, who understands you, listens to you, cares about you and wants to care for you. so we take what we can get. I remember very poignantly reluctantly letting my mom talk me into marrying my ex because he was the only guy in college who was interested in dating me. You dont want to end up old and alone she said. But look what happened 12 years later.

"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer