Wow, Retread. That�s so needed these days. I wonder if the problem is that few of us have hope that the conditions in your last paragraph will ever be met, that we�ll �find someone who shares your values, who understands you, listens to you, cares about you and wants to care for you. � so we take what we can get. I remember very poignantly reluctantly letting my mom talk me into marrying my ex because he was the only guy in college who was interested in dating me. You don�t want to end up old and alone she said. But look what happened 12 years later.

"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer