Originally Posted By: Happy2CU
I think that you owe it to these fellas that you date to let them know early in the relationship that you are not going to have pre-marital sex.


So how early is too early? I used to tell guys on the first date. But then my friends told me that was why I was never getting a second date, I should keep shut and let the guy get to know me first. Honestly, few guys have lasted past 2 months of dating, because they tend to move too fast and I end up having to tell them I want to slow things down. Which leads to "when?" As one guy said, I don't want to wait around for 6 months only to find out you're still not ready. So then I end up telling them no sex without commitment. And then I never hear from them again.

Not all guys, of course. In my 2 years of divorced-hood, Ive gone out with 3 guys beyond 2 months, but until Big Dude they were just getting to know you not exclusive dating.


"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer