Romans 14:1 (NLT)
1 Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don�t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong.
In this verse the apostle addresses the church in the danger of criticism. New believers to the church are just beginning to understand their faith. This would be the time to guide them gently into understanding the teachings of God. When there is a difference of opinion it is not to be voiced in a strong argument, but instead time should be given for the new believers to seek answers from God that they may grow in their faith.
When we have a need to do so our arguments should voice factual statements and feelings that lend to a positive process of reasoning. Arguments should never be carried out in bitter and angry ways. These arguments do nothing more than to harm the credibility of the speaker. Also instead of bringing persuasion they tend to bring rejection because the listener tunes out factual evidence in response to negative feelings arising out of the hurtful argument. The apostle James wrote we should always be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. Peter�s words tell us how an argument should be carried out. We should first listen to the feelings of one another. We should gain an understanding of how the other feels before we make our own interjections. Then we should be slow in our response as to give time to our own reasoning. We do not want to respond out of anger, but we should respond out of love to address one another�s feelings. Lastly we want to temper our arguments so they do not turn into angry battles. We do not want to let the emotion of anger get out of control and lead us into sin. When it does lead us to sinful rage instead of trying to understand feelings and gain facts we have a tendency to hurl insults and argue over insignificant facts. This again does nothing but harm the relationship between the people having the argument.
Lord I know there have been many times I have argued incorrectly and against the way You would have me present an argument. I pray for myself and so many others who have done the same. Father I pray you would help us to do as James taught us so that we would honor you. In Jesus name, Amen.