Ephesians 4:25 (The Message)
25 What this adds up to, then, is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ's body we're all connected to each other, after all. When you lie to others, you end up lying to yourself.
In this verse the Apostle Paul sums up the point he is trying to make to Christians. Stop lying to people. Stop trying to pretend you are something you are not. Be honest with those who are closest with you. For if you are not honest with others you will find yourself believing in your own lies.
I have known people to lie about all kinds of things. They lie to stay out of trouble. They lie because they don�t want to admit the pain in their life. They lie because they are struggling with sin. They lie because of pride. They lie because they are afraid.
You may have heard a Christian say, �I use to have a life where I did nothing but tell lies, cuss, drink, etc., but thank God Jesus changed all that.� I do believe Jesus changed that person and gave them freedom over those sins. I believed Jesus died to set each of us free from sin so that we might have a more abundant, fruitful and joyful life. I believe when we turn our lives over to Jesus and give Him complete control we are set free from the sins that controlled us.
I want to share a sobering thought; Christians will find themselves lying when they aren�t allowing Jesus into all areas of their life. I�ll give you an example. Let�s say you are struggling with sin or facing an overwhelming problem. You haven�t turned those problems over to Jesus. What happens when you pass a friend and they ask, �How are you doing?� In reality you are not doing well are you? But often the response will be, �Oh, I am doing great, thank you!� What did you just do? You lied, maybe you consider it a small lie, but still it was a lie.
The Apostle Paul encourages us to give up the lies and be honest with those around us. When we lie we might opportunities for help. When we lie we begin to believe we are ok, when we are not. I pray God would bring people into your life that you will be honest with. I pray God will let you share your heart with people who can help you with your struggle. Draw close to God and He will draw close to you.