Colossians 3:18-21 (NLT)
18 Wives, obey your husbands. This is what the Lord wants you to do. 19 Husbands, love your wives. Do not hold hard feelings against them. 20 Children, obey your parents in everything. The Lord is pleased when you do. 21 Fathers, do not be so hard on your children that they will give up trying to do what is right.

There verses are about love and grace that should exist in a home. In these verses wives are told to yield to the admonition or advice of a husband according to what God would have the wife to do. The wife must first be subject to the will and desires of the Lord and then to the husband. For God first created Adam and from Adam created Eve establishing the order of the family. Husbands have even a greater duty to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Christ gave of himself for the church and husbands likewise must give up themselves for the betterment of the wife. Husbands must not be bitter towards their wife, nor unkind, never using harsh words towards them and never treating them severely. They are to demonstrate the love of Christ in their relationship and love at all times. Fathers are to pay particular attention to the treatment of their children in that they are not overbearing in their relationship with them. Fathers are to be a role model their children will follow just as fathers should follow The Lord and model His character. Fathers should encourage their children and never in an overbearing way that causes them to give up because they fear can�t they live up to expectations that were not meant for them. Ensure grace abounds with love in the home.

Denise Banderman wrote: In the spring of 2002, I left work early so I could have some uninterrupted study time before my final exam in the Youth Ministry class at Hannibal-LaGrange College in Missouri. When I got to class, everybody was doing their last-minute studying. The teacher came in and said he would review with us before the test. Most of his review came right from the study guide, but there were some things he was reviewing that I had never heard. When questioned about it, he said they were in the book and we were responsible for everything in the book. We couldn't argue with that.

Finally it was time to take the test. "Leave them face down on the desk until everyone has one, and I'll tell you to start," our professor, Dr. Tom Hufty, instructed.

When we turned them over, to my astonishment every answer on the test was filled in. My name was even written on the exam in red ink. The bottom of the last page said: "This is the end of the exam. All the answers on your test are correct. You will receive an A on the final exam. The reason you passed the test is because the creator of the test took it for you. All the work you did in preparation for this test did not help you get the A. You have just experienced grace."

Dr. Hufty then went around the room and asked each student individually, "What is your grade? Do you deserve the grade you are receiving? How much did all your studying for this exam help you achieve your final grade?"

Then he said, "Some things you learn from lectures, some things you learn from research, but some things you can only learn from experience. You've just experienced grace. One hundred years from now, if you know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior, your name will be written down in a book, and you will have had nothing to do with writing it there. That will be the ultimate grace experience.�

Does the love of Christ, His mercy and grace live in your family? If not ask Christ to be with you.