Originally Posted by living_well
Originally Posted by nscriv
I don't think that she is completely withdrawn either. After coming across an article 'buyers, renters and freeloaders' she has many of the characterstics described under freeloader.

Of course she is a freeloader. That is exactly what a withdrawn spouse is.
Freeloaders and withdrawn spouses are not the same thing. Many withdrawn spouses are not freeloaders. One can emotionally pull out of the marriage for lots of reasons that have nothing to do with being a freeloader. In fact, calling your withdrawn spouse a freeloader can constitute a disrespectful judgement.

married for 40 years
DS - 38, autistic, lives at home
DD - 37, married and on her own
DS - 32, still living with us