Originally Posted by Frdmgal
I guess I just don't know why I'd go to all of the trouble of finding out if he's having an affair. If he is, then he is. If he isn't, well then he's still showing me enough disrespect and carelessness that it's warranted a lot of my friends and family asking me if he is cheating on me. Either way, the actions that he's showing towards me have left me feeling hurt and defeated in a similar way an affair might.
Is there a reason to find out for sure?

There is a very good reason to find out why. You can't solve your problems if you don't have the facts. If he is having an affair, there is very specific advice we would give you. If he is not, we would advise you very differently. You have to know the facts in order to solve your problem.

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