Originally Posted By: headingwest
And also counseling identified anger as my wife's problem. Unknown to me she'd lived her life in a pool of anger! But I can't be angry at her?

You must be joking? Does your "counselor" actually know people who do not have a problem with an angry, hotheaded spouse? You might want to check with a qualified marriage counselor because they will tell you that anger destroys marriages. You can email Dr Bill Harley, clinical psychologist and and author of His Needs, Her Needs, for free and he will tell you how damaging anger is to marriages. Just do a search for "anger" on this website and you will find thousands of threads of broken marriages due to anger.

There are hundreds of radio shows on the same subject in the radio archives. Anger wrecks marriages.

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