Originally Posted By: MelodyLane

Learn how to use the policy of joint agreement and eliminate all love busters. Instead of "setting boundaries," learn to negotiate decisions that make you BOTH happy. This is not about your boundaries or her boundaries, but about finding decisions that make you both happy.

And until you find a decision that makes you both happy, the default is to do nothing. That means (in this example) that you decline all event invitations until the departure time has been settled. Negotiating using the POJA is a skill that comes with practice. It is not easy.

3 adult children
Divorced - he was a serial adulterer
Now remarried, thank you MB
(formerly lied_to_again)