<B>Lonesome</B> ~<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>My C says H's first response to any request of any kind is resistance. (understatement!) I've modified some of my behavior that seems successful. I have a history of taking on too much responsibility while my H is carefree and oblivious. <HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>This could be me and my H, that's for sure. I've also discovered that by giving options, that I get a much better response. Just like with my kids, I seem to need to give him a set of choices, and then all of a sudden, he feels in control or something...<P>So then, where are MY varied options and choices darn it?! I want a different menu too please! [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>------------------<BR><I>Pain is a given, misery is optional.</I>