Lets try-

Thanks for your post. Another thought has crossed my mind. I mentioned it in my earlier post.

Even though I was a BS, I don't feel like I have major trust issues with others. Should I? I'm a pretty trusting person, I think I have decent intuition - but I wouldn't say I'm naive or overly trusting. That's me.

I'm dating a great guy right now who does have trust issues. So, we make for an interesting pair. I have to be honest when I say if there is one thing I learned from my first marriage, it's how to communicate better. So, we can discuss an issue if one comes up. And, I think overall, we're doing it pretty well.

I'm continuing to read relationship books. I feel good about myself. I feel my wounds are healing very nicely.

I'm going through an annulment right now and that has helped me tremendously with the healing aspect of divorce.

I don't have all the answers. I have to forgive myself often (sometimes hard to do, I can be pretty tough on myself). I also have to recognize and admit my mistakes more. When I was married, I always felt like I had to fight or stick up for myself. Reality is, I make mistakes. I did in my marriage and I do it in my everyday life. I'm trying to be a better listener and a little less defensive.

Does anyone know what I'm talking about? The defensiveness thing?

Overall, my relationship with my family and friends feels better than ever before. I feel I have found the peace in my life that I deserve, but continue to work on me every day.

Hope we can keep this post going. It's helpful to chat with others who have/are going through the same changes.