broken hearted
The school will see her for what she is irrational and crazy.. Take a deep breath I am sorry your husband has put you through this, I understand more than you know. A move sounds great!!!
Do you have caller Id just ignore her.. she cant think this behavior would endear her self to your husband. Because when push comes to shove these are his children. I would like to think he will wake up and wonder what he has done to them.
I read things such as this and realize I can make it when times get tough I dont have these kinds of things to deal with any more.. although I am not foolish enough to know I might have to again.

Hi Mom! They got home a little while ago and H is moving out of her house tomorrow! He is staying at his parents house until he moves into his new house (in about a month). He wants to stay here tonight, but I don't want him to. My D is saying we should let him because he has nowhere to go tonight. His parents are away until tomorrow. What should I do? Maybe I will feel safer if he is here...in case she goes wacko again. I am so confused! I used to have caller ID, but my H for some strange reason didn't like it and disconnected it....now I know why! <p>By the way...the dog is safe. My D did bring her up to Maine. I guess I am paranoid!!
BH

Well I am glad all are back safely (including the dog). Where will your H be for the night? That one is up to you. Now that you know more facts, things will look differently. You still have that school issue to deal with right? What does your H have to say about that one?<p>L.

Hey BH,<p>Isn't he worried that the psycho will storm your house again? Or does he think of that? What did he say about her threat to call the school on your son? That should be a major LB on top of her little scene the other night.

What did you say when she made this threat against your son?

Hi BH,<p>Sorry I'm so late in response.<p>Boy, what a circus. OW is certainly showing her true colors in full spring bloom. What a LOONIE!<p>I'm sorry the kids had to see all this, and I'm so glad your doggie is okay afterall.<p>Whatever you do, BH ... STAY LEGAL in all dealings with OW. She's a loose cannon and you never know when she'll try and turn the tables on YOU ... good example is her accusations of your son trying to have her son beat-up.<p>I fear in her bag of many looney tricks she may possibly try and put you in a negative light some how, seems she'll stop at nothing to make you and your kids look bad, IMHO. So please stay frosty and alert.<p>Now is the time to stick to your boundaries in Plan A. You can continue to be respectful of your H, yet you do not have to take abuse from anyone, esp OW.<p>Yours and the kids physical wellbeing is paramount and comes first, so do what you have to to protect yourselves. <p>Don't know how you're still doing this, BH. My hat goes off to you, having H and OW living next door for months on end and staying LB-less must be the hardest single thing you've ever done. <p>Keep us updated, and do take legal action to keep her at bay.<p>Lv,
Jo

I am so glad all are safe and fido too of course. I think husband staying there is up to you.. My self I think I would let him so she would cause a seen and you have two police reports to get RO.
AND i AGREE IF YOU WANT HIM BACK A GREAT WAY TO START PLAN A AGAIN.
But it might be better for all if he stayed at parents house alone. till they come home.
I told you there was trouble in paradise I am sure that feel a little better. SORRY sometimes we all have those mean thoughts.
I hope your husband will support you with the school and what is going on, I bet he will.
Enjoy your evening and dont work to hard but i know how excited you must be to be moving.

I hope everything is ok with her. She hasn't been on all evening. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by brokenhearted:
<strong>Hi Melody!
Well, I guess it is a lesson learned. This is the first time he has come here after a fight. NEVER AGAIN will I offer him a place to stay after a fight. It puts too much potential danger and too much stress on my kids. She is a nutcase!! As they say...hindsight is 20/20! If only I knew then what I know now! I think I need some sleep!!
BH</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Wiser words were never written.<p>Good luck and may God always bless you and your family.<p>Joe

Hi everyone. I am OK. It is just a little weird having him here. Haven't talked too much, just small talk. He told me not to worry about the situation w/ my son, that she probably made it up anyway. My S saw her son tonight and asked him why he told his mom that. Richie denied saying anything even close to that. So I guess she made the whole thing up! I'll check in again tomorrow after he leaves. It is too uncomfortable with him in the next room. THANK YOU so much for your concern. I'll write more tomorrow. Hope everyone has a good night.
BH

i think I will say a little prayer for you tonight.

BH-<p>All I can say is WOW! Keep a journal because I know you could sell this story to a TV network, like Lifetime or so. But seriously (and that was serious, why not amke a few bucks off of your misery), keep things written down so that if need be, it can be presented to the police or court. An especially if she is making these aqusations about your son and hers. This lady is off her nut and needs to be placed in a rubber room for her own protection!<p>Not much I can offer, but do file the RO, file assault charges if you can. Change the locks on all the doors, brace the lower floor windows, basement especially, dont leave anything (car included) out unattended, leave all porch lights on! Really do take extraordinary steps becasue this lady is not all there.<p>If you think she may try something like that again, get some pepper spray for all family members, maybe a stun gun for yourself. In Colorado we have a "Make My Day" law that allows a person all force necessary to protect family and property if a person breaks into a home.<p>Take care, BH, only a few weeks to go, what a relief it will be to get away from that woman and all the crap she has brought into your life.

((( BH ))) Do you have a video camera, or a voice recorder of some sort? If you do, have them handy. Check to make sure the batteries are good, and everything is ready to go ... if you have any more alien home invasions ... record them .... and call 911..... have the little "lady" arrested for breaking and entering.<p>YOU are onehellofawonderfulandamazing woman!<p>I applaud your courage and your heart.<p>WOW!<p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by brokenhearted:
<strong>Hi everyone. I am OK. It is just a little weird having him here. Haven't talked too much, just small talk. He told me not to worry about the situation w/ my son, that she probably made it up anyway. BH</strong><hr></blockquote><p>But you know what? It doesn't matter if she made it up, she can still make the accusation at school and cause your son great harm. How does that sit with your H for this psycho to be dragging your kids into this? She thought of breaking into your house and causing a scene. Are there no lines that can't be crossed in his mind? <p>The sad thing is that, YES, you do have to worry about it because, as he has demonstrated in the past, he won't protect you or your kids from harm. That duty falls completely on your shoulders now. It's not enough that she helped destroy your marriage, now she is going after your kids. I hope your H understands this.

Thanks everyone! I was going to write individual answers to all of you, but it was getting way too long. So...I am going to try to answer everyone in on message. I do want to tell you all that your kind words and support through all of this has helped me more than I could ever put into words. Thanks so much for being so wonderful!!<p>Well, we made it through the night without any drama! She called this morning and said she needed to talk to H.."it is an emergency and vital that I talk to him now, where is he, is he with you". I didn't say a word just handed the phone to H. Now he is over there talking to her. He claims that he is leaving there today. We shall see. <p>He just came back and said that she apologized for everything, blamed it on the drinking, etc. He told her it was over and he was taking his stuff. She let him take two bags and then locked the doors. He is going to try to get some more stuff but I think he going to call the police first.<p>He is not going to stay here tonight. I asked him not to drink last night and he did anyway. He only had two drinks, but even two is too many under these circumstances. The school situation is still up in the air. She claims that her S told her that my S was trying to have him beat up. Now Richie (her S) is saying that he never said that. My H had her call Richie down when he was over there to clear the air on that one. So Richie denies saying that but she is still insistent that Vincent was planning something. Now she is claiming that my kids pushed her down when she was in my kitchen. I can tell you without a doubt the did not. When I came into the kitchen she was standing up, they were trying to restrain her from going any further. All of a sudden, she threw herself to the floor and started ranting "let me up, at least let me up so I can walk". No one was even near her at this point! So Jo, you are right, she is turning the tables on my kids, and next it will be. I am going tomorrow to get the restraining order. My daughter is going to write everything down for me (she has an awesome memory and an awesome ability for writing everything down in sequence). The video camera is in my room with the battery charger on. Hopefully I won't have to use it, but if necessary, it is ready to go! Thank you for the prayers! I know they helped! <p>Thanks so much for all of the kind words and encouragement and support. I don't know how I would have gotten through the last few days without this place. <p>I'll be back later with an update!
BH

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by brokenhearted:
<strong> Now she is claiming that my kids pushed her down when she was in my kitchen. I can tell you without a doubt the did not. When I came into the kitchen she was standing up, they were trying to restrain her from going any further. All of a sudden, she threw herself to the floor and started ranting "let me up, at least let me up so I can walk". No one was even near her at this point! So Jo, you are right, she is turning the tables on my kids, and next it will be. I am going tomorrow to get the restraining order. BH</strong><hr></blockquote><p>Let her try to complain to a judge that the children of the man she is having an affair with, whose house she BROKE INTO, have "pushed her down." That is like a rapist lodging a complaint against the rapee that she scratched him. My God, is there NO END to the hutzpah of this brazen psycho? <p>If Julie had broken into MY OWN home to fetch my own husband in front of my children, she would have to be carried out on a stretcher and I doubt any jury on this continent would convict me. She needed much more than pushing down, she needed a serious [censored] whooping and if I were the BS, she would have had it long ago. <p>
Please take care of yourself and keep up posted. I am so glad that he is moving out of there! At least you don't have to have your nose rubbed in this every day.

If she lodges a complaint against your son at school, you can easily make her look like the psycho she is by giving them the background to this complaint. I would give them the whole sordid story along with the fact that you have a restraining order against this nut because she broke into your house in the middle of the night.

BH, I'm glad you're hanging in there and I'm VERY glad you're setting boundries for your H. He has no right to your house as his "safe haven". If the dog has fleas, it stays outside...and I don't mean the one that was lost (thank goodness it was with your daughter!) I'm glad you'll be able to get out of there soon...what a horrible position to be left in. Obviously he still isn't respecting you when he still drinks even when asked not to. What a fine example for your children. Take care of yourself!!!

I agree! You should not allow WH to stay with you. It will only cause increased stress on you and your kids ... it will give Julie a reason to keep calling you and harassing you if she thinks WH is in your house. WH needs to protect you from her by NOT being in your house.<p>I don't think they are "over" each other .... yet.<p>They will likely reconcile their twisted, sick relationship at least one more time. Do not be shocked to learn they have "made up". But, be assured, theirs is a relationship so twisted, sick, and un-loving ... that complete and total failure is guaranteed! They will burn up all their feelings .... and be standing in the ashes of their own charred souls.<p>Time is on your side here.<p>Pepper [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi BH, I am glad to see you are holding strong in the face of this drama... Glad it is over with ow! too bad for her, huh? Cream always rises to the top! and ow's always sink, right?<p>I am glad everyone is ok and no one was seriously hurt. Really I think this is all a good thing, although terrible the kids had to see it. Is Maine where your h's parents are?<p>What a mess... it sounds like your h still loves the kids..MORE THAN OW>.. this is wonderful, and is beginning to see what a nut she is! <p>Is he moving into their suppossedly joint house? Was he buying it alone? what is the deal there? what a mess/ so glad this nutcase will be left behind .. maybe she can just stay in her house and yall will all move away= but I am sure the rest of the neighborhood knows what a nut/slu+ she is, right? tell all the women to gaurd their h's.<p>I think as nutty as she is.. once being your firend and all... she is very dangerous and capable of anything.. she wants him back now.. and is going to try tricks to get him back.<p>I am so happy that for yoyu, this A is another one that just didn't last... ! Boy was I happy when that happened with ow #1... (the possible soulmate, oh pllease!)<p>Well, the drinking... shows how quility he feels...he is treying to anesthesize himself from the pain and guilt.. he must feel like a genuine loser...
dont pick on him while he is down... be as nice as you can... even if it is just for the kids sake... <p>Maybe there is hope for recovery if you are still open to it.. but not yet.. it will take time, and you are a smart women... I know you will be careful.<p>Hugs to you in this time of crisis.. .and yes... do press any type of charges you can! did she hit or grab your daughters? be sure you charge her for assault if you can.. that will help you even more in the future... ! <p>Hugs, HONEY [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]