stilljustme,
Good morning!<p>ok.. What do you want? I suppose you're not sure. I'm guessing you just want the arguing to stop, the pain to go away, and to find happiness.<p>I have a few thoughts/suggestions/questions for you to ponder:<p>1. Your feelings of anger and hurt are VERY understandable, and very common. Just read the posts on GQ page 1 alone, and you'll see a variety of emotions and stages of growth, some of which I bet you can identify with.<p>2. I *think* it's good that you 2 have a little time away from the war-zone. I know that you care deeply for each other, and I know you want to stop hurting each other.<p>3. I recommend that you learn about PLan A, and begin working on it. For yourself. To work on YOU, to take care of YOU, while MH works on himself (or not [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] ... that's his choice). At some point, hopefully you two will decide to work together, to help each other heal, and to provide a safe relationship for each other. I know that you care deeply for each other, and that you want to try to honor your marriage commitment, as much as possible. It is VERY possible.... but there's many wounds to heal. <p>4. I guess I'm saying... take some time and patience. There's no rush to make a decision. Learn about YOU... take care of YOU... and MH can do the same. <p>5. Would you be open to making one phone counseling call to Steve Harley together? He won't try to force you to stay married. He wants to help you explore your options, and I think that's what you both want, right? TO understand your options??? <p>Well, that's about all I can think of right now. I'm certainly not a professional. But I care about you 2, and I'll do whatever I can to help.
