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#1012196 06/29/02 07:29 PM
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I'm a couple of days late posting this because I have been sooooooooooo busy at work.

But June 27 marked our 1 year recovery anniversary. June 27, 2001 was the night before our first divorce court date, and we had been separated for 17 months. My husbands affair had been going on almost 2 years.

On the 27th, the night before we were due in court for our first divorce hearing, my husband came to me and outlined his plan for rebuilding my trust and restoring our marriage.

I didn't really believe him at the time, but I decided to give him one more chance, and we skipped court the next morning.

After a month of his putting actions behind his promises - he moved home.

It's been a year. There has been absolutely no contact, no backsliding.

Last night as we were falling asleep, he told me that what he loved the most about our relationship was that he didn't need to justify, or rationalize loving me. That he could fall into bed at night and wrap his arms around me and know it was the right place to be with no fear, no doubts and no lies, dishonesty or pretense to himself or others.

I think I can say we made it!

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Blessed are the lowly...
...for they will inherit the earth.

Your patience has led to "being right"... in Him...
...and youin turn... have led your husband.

Two thumbs up.

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#1012198 06/29/02 08:14 PM
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BrambleRose,

That is truly beautiful! God DOES work in his own time.
Congratulations.

take care,
cleo

p.s. might I add a congratulations for getting NSR out of hiding <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

#1012199 06/29/02 08:26 PM
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BrambleRose,

<--------- <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> --------------->

Glad both of you recover nicely and safely. -RH-

#1012200 06/29/02 08:37 PM
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Thanks for telling us this BR, it has come at a time when most needed as its been a very painful weekend.

I'm happy its working for you.

#1012201 06/29/02 08:58 PM
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I am very happy for you, but I could not help but to cry. Your story is what I needed to help me rebuild some strength to continue on the course I laid out months ago. I will hold steadfast knowing that anything is possible. I so appreciate your post. I do not think I could describe in words how much this means to me now.

Thanks.

#1012202 06/29/02 09:05 PM
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Glad things are going so well for you, BR. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

#1012203 06/29/02 09:18 PM
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dreamland:
[QB]I will hold steadfast knowing that anything is possible. I so appreciate your post. I do not think I could describe in words how much this means to me now.
QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Diito this, BR.

It is "testimony" from the success stories like YOURS that gives hope to the rest of us to HOLD ON....

Thanks for hanging out here, and sharing your pain AND your joy with us. It helps so much.

God Bless you both.

#1012204 06/29/02 10:02 PM
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BR,

The last paragraph brought tears to my eyes, your H has truly come around and has learned to appreciate you!!

God Bless you both and your family!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Like she said. I got tears in my eyes.

Perklempft.

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#1012206 06/29/02 10:27 PM
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Bramblerose-

You made it!

Thanks for all that you've done to keep us all on this board on the right track. I wish you all the best and many happy emotional need met years to come.

K

#1012207 06/29/02 10:45 PM
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Congrats, BR- YOU deserve it! Honey

#1012208 06/29/02 10:46 PM
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That makes me feel happy for you, Rosie. You have your just reward.

#1012209 06/30/02 12:48 AM
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

#1012210 06/30/02 01:49 AM
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That is so neat to hear. Congratulations...and best wishes for a wonderful future. Pat

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Dear BrambleRose,
Thank you for sharing this with us. This is something I really needed to hear right now. You do so much to help people on this board. Thank you for sharing the wisdom you have gained from your experiences. I like your tag on the bottom of your sig line - it's something I am trying to address in my own life.

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#1012212 06/30/02 09:49 PM
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Dear everyone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

thanks so much for your responses - yes, I am truely blessed. My husband and I were married in a Byzantine Catholic ceremony - and so we have our wedding icons (Christ and His Mother) on the wall of our bedroom. There were so many nights that I sat on the end of my bed before those icons, pleading with God to change my husband's heart and begging the Holy Family to protect my children. My answers were not what I had expected, but they were more than I could have possibly imagined.

I am so very grateful for my life today. I can truely say that I am my husband's best friend. And even though we still have stuff to iron out, the wonderful thing is that I see him work at his part of our relationship.

And a year ago, I had imagined that by this summer that I would be moving to a new state with my children, a divorced woman.

Instead, my marriage is far better than it EVER was.

The best part of it all though, is the changes that I made in me. And I love knowing that if I had ended up divorced, I would have been just fine. I learned to trust myself and to trust my own senses and ability to make decisions - which is, I believe, one reason that our recovery has gone well. Confidence on my part makes so much difference!

Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded, and I want you to all know that I pray for all of you every night.

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BR,

I have the same Icons and probably said very similar prayers in front of those also......

#1012214 07/01/02 12:09 AM
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My dear BR,

How happy your post has made me. 1 year! Wow. Just to think how much you had been going through and yet you still managed to find time to post to us 'newbies' with words of encouragement, strength and that awesome
kick-in-the-pants support that you are so well known for.

Your H appreciates U and so do we!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Happiness to you both.

L.

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by BrambleRose:
<strong> ...And a year ago, I had imagined that by this summer that I would be moving to a new state with my children, a divorced woman.

Instead, my marriage is far better than it EVER was...
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Amazing!!! Isn't it amazing how far you have come! Wow! You are living proof of MB concepts working and saving your marriage! I'm so happy for you BR, thanks for sharing! & Happy Anniversary!!! INDEED!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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