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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ... I honestly believe she thinks she can't continue in her field if she says NC. So, ending her A may be much, much harder for her than for the "average" WS. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you want a violin? My thoughts are too bad so sad. I'm so sorry her irresponsible, thoughtless, selfish, harmful actions has jeapardized her career. She ought to be more concerned about the harm she has caused towards her family than her "field". Lost her career? How does she handle loosing her family? Lost her financial livelyhood? How does she feel about smashing your heart and her children's heart? The two really don't compare.
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ILuv:
I like the violin comment. Made me smile, which is pretty hard to do right now. We used to say "My heart pumps peanut butter for you" when people whined too much.
Yeah, I KNOW this is all true, but I CAN'T get THROUGH her thick skull and get an admission of any guilt out of her. I don't know if you remember, but she actually said, during the argument 3 weeks ago, that "My mistake wasn't having an A, it was getting M'd in the first place." No, she truly expects me to take 50% of the blame for her A. Reason and logic can make no headway against that idiotic thinking.
I need, over the course of the day, to get beyond these angry thoughts so I don't LB too badly when I see her tonight.
I should probably start a new thread and try out a few plan B letters.
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2L; You DO NOT have to make a decision by tonight. You CAN hold onto this information for a few days until you use it in THE BEST POSSIBLE WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR M.
If you use it now, without thinking, you may precipitate a bad outcome. Please think, write your Plan B letters, vent, do whatever you want. Call me on my cell! But DO NOT feel you have to make a decision by tonight. You DON'T!
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SC:
I know... I'm just a real mess again!
I think I'll call you.
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WS fog talk...
My H told me he was going to play Basketball one day. I told him "honey, I'm sorry but I am really having a hard time believing your going to play basketball" His response in hate: "I really don't care what you think". I just cryed and cryed and cryed. How pathetic I was back then. I wish I wouldve had the guts to do Plan B LONG before I did.
Writing a Plan B letter can be VERY healing. Write it but definately wait a week to give it to make sure you have thought things through. BUT having a Plan B letter written can help you NOT LB. It is tucked away as an option. It helps you get things into perspective.
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ILuv:
I plan to work on a plan B letter, between updating maps at work, that is! Busy day. Why does this keep happening to me? I really do just want the pain to end, for me and her. And I don't feel like I'm doing her much good letting this A continue.
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