Chameleon

You should check out some IC, and some medicine(temporary)I really think it will help, my H told me about his childhood and it was terrible and made me know where he got a lot of his thinking and his ways:Affairs, Angry all the time, just a lot of it came from the way he was raised.

I finally got him to go to the doctor 34yrs old and never had a physical in his life, he has had 1 counseling session and was put on anti-depress, I don't know if it solve everything but from what I have seen, he has changed a little and that's a start.

GOOD LUCK!

Now, try not to get irritated by this question ... I'm trying to phrase this in a way that makes a dent in your armour without making a dent in your skull (LOL) .... Here's my question:

In what ways does your wife behave very much like your mother did when you were a little boy?

MORE (((HUGS)))

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

<small>[ July 19, 2002, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>

Yea, I'm sure I've had enough counseling for both of us, LOL!!!

Just go do it. So what if you have doubts. Try it. ANYTHING is worth a shot!! I had SERIOUS doubt issues about taking antidepressants. I'm not one to pop pills...dad never took me to the doctor...I never even take tylenol for a headache. BUT...I was tired of living life the way it was. So I got off my high horse and just did it. And it HELPED! Got me out of the pit of despair.

Our first counselor was TERRIBLE. So we found another one. And she wasn't great as a MARITAL counselor but she sure helped me with individual.

Don't always think you have to do everything by yourself, on your own. That was some of the BEST advice I was given just before my head popped out. A friend told me "you think you're sooo tough, always have to do things all by yourself...won't take ANY help from ANYONE will you?" ENRAGED me...I was so ticked off. Then I cooled down...and they were right. I was so big on trying to be strong...that I wasn't letting anyone else in...not even to help. People build walls to keep out pain...but all it does is keep it IN.

"People build walls to keep out pain , but all it does is keep it IN"..........

WOW LOVE this ... put it in your signature! LOVE IT!

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

H4F:

"Don't always think you have to do everything by yourself, on your own. That was some of the BEST advice I was given just before my head popped out. A friend told me "you think you're sooo tough, always have to do things all by yourself...won't take ANY help from ANYONE will you?" ENRAGED me...I was so ticked off. Then I cooled down...and they were right. I was so big on trying to be strong...that I wasn't letting anyone else in...not even to help. People build walls to keep out pain...but all it does is keep it IN."

You sound like a clone of my W. Except for the head-popping. My W's Corneal Rectumitis continues unabated.