I don't know if this post will do any good, as there is much great advice already there, and TOG seems to be MIA; but here's my nickels worth. I am a current BS, my wife asked for a D, and a week later I found out about A's, several of them. If this woman has not left her husband yet for you, chances are she won't. My WW has written letters to OM (yes i snooped, and I don't feel bad about it either) in which she said she loved him, and wanted nothing but to be with him. Well guess what, while it is quite likely she is still seeing him from time-to-time, she has still NOT filed for D or even legal seperation. You may not have intended to hurt anyone, but you did. My WW's other man is also married, how many people have they hurt between them? My WW may even have feelings for this man still, but she is still intimate with me. HMMM, wonder if your woman is still intimate with her H? How does that make YOU feel? She is quite possibly seeing you, leaving only to go home to her H and having sex with him. I don't know what the future holds for me or my WW, but I quite certain that the future holds NOTHING for them. BTW, I don't think you are an evil person, anymore than my W is evil. It is very possible this woman is playing you, "cake-walking" as I hear it is called. Good luck to you friend, I truly hope you find happiness (and avoid the woman's husban at all costs, for your own safety) and I wish you best of luck in all.
I would as a footnote like to thank everyone's great advice here to this poor dillusional man, as it had the unintended effect of helping me a bit also. Good luck everyone and thanks again, PRAYERS all around. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />