</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by davepr:
<strong>I hope God gives him the strength to get through the withdraws and work on his marriage. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Davepr: As always, thank you for your encouragement and kind words, you may not realize it, but you helped me so much when I was getting ready to give up, you and your wife have found the light at the end of tunnel, hope to see ya there soon. I have been praying this whole time for God to give him strenghth and wisdom, and I know that I have to trust God that he has his perfect timing.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by buffy:
<strong>I'm a firm believer that recovery from infidelity is an evolutionary process...slow, painstaking and filled with unexpected spurts and stops...and by our reactions we limit or halter our own recovery from same</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Buffy: I agree, and I have uncovered a patience trait that I never thought I would have all through this. I have refused to give up (came close a few times), but just have this "feeling" that it would be okay.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Seahorse:
<strong>Go girl <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Seahorse: Thanks for the encouragement!! How are you doing? I saw in another post that you have been ill? I hope everything is OK?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Spacecase:
<strong> I think you are exactly right in waiting for him to say he wants to come home before you talk about what he has to do for that</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Spacecase: thanks, I wasn't sure if I was doing the right thing, but I wanted to give him time to make the decision if he wants this marriage or not, which I haven't got a firm committment <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> , hopefully read SAA so he can "educate" himself. I was afraid if I pushed too fast, he would run scared with his tail between his legs. If he does decide he wants this marriage too work, I will then lay my conditions on the table, if he refuses, then I know he's not ready.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by blondblossom:
<strong> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Make sure to let him know that you admire him for the strength that he is bringing up and that you are prowd of him.
Don't misunderstand me. Don't crawl. Just give him these feelings and any others he will really need in order to think positively about you and get over the withdrawel. I'm sure that the last time he saw OW it probably wasn't very positive and dreamy.
Do you have the possibility to get away for 2 or 3 days??? This is what we did right after D-D. This brought back alot of connection.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Blondblossom: thank you so much for being here,it means so much for us BS's to have those in recovery coming back, you have been there, and you understand. thank you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I did mention to him at one point yesterday that I apologized for not telling him everyday (before he left me) how much he meant to me, and that he was the best thing in my life. He looked at me kinda weird, and said that he was the worst thing that could have happened to me than gave me a hug. Hopefully that was a confidence booster. Thinking back, I really did alot of LB's (not to excuse the affair). I took him for granted, I never thought he would ever leave me. I was disrepectful with alot of his ideas and opinions, always thought mine were better, etc.
If he does decide to come home, we definitely will go for a weekend getaway. Maybe got to Gatlinburg and get a cabin in the woods or something where there is no one around <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by brokenhearted:
<strong>It is such a positive sign that he took the books</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Brokenhearted: I just hope he reads them!! Fortunately, he loves to read, I'm just hoping that he was just taking them to please me!
I guess I was all worked up about our heart to heart talk that wasn't really heart to heart at all. I am going to try to take it slow, let him iniate the conversations, and try not to push. It is going to be rough, because we have so many things to discuss and talk through
