GC, sounds like you are making progress and the fog may be lifting...

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So here's my take on Plan A (a strong Plan A, no chasing, no begging, no pleading, no LBing, improve yourself): Act like
a friend to your spouse. This is how most affairs start right? Be a friend and just listen. Don't push your views on them,
just listen. Let them know you are there, let them know they can trust you totally with their fragile heart. Now
hopefully, if he decides to work this out, we start in good terms, he will know that my boundaries I set are in good
intentions for our marriage, not to hurt him. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I think this is a good approach, if you are going to start over, start as friends first.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Maybe 3rd time will be a charm this time. His first try was right after D-Day, second try was a
year ago. Now here we go again, but I feel like I am in more control right now. I know what my beliefs are and I will
stick by them. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Third time worked for us...you being in more control will make a big difference... Keep up the good work.. Dave

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by blondblossom:
<strong>He really might still be having contact with OW. She too might be trying to Plan A him without knowing it</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">yes, I realize this is a strong possibility, and would not be surprised if he is, he is a total conflict avoider and does not like to burn bridges, can be a bad trait. Hopefully she's begging, looking clingy, I am not!!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by blondblossom:
<strong>Do you know of any opputunity to spend maybe a few hours together with him. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I know he has to come back in town this weekend, I will see if he brings it up first, then I will ask.

Davepr: thanks for the booster!!

ok now, I thought WH was kidding about this, forgot to mention it yesterday, he was saying that he wished he could talk to Dr. Phil to help him straighten his head out, that Dr. Phil would have a hayday with him. He was joking around and saying,yea, we could go on Dr. PHil's show, get free counseling, etc.

I just got an email from him, he actually sent them info. if you got to www.drphil.com there is a link on the front page for stories, one of them being affairs.

he emailed and asked me to do it to, for a double shot!!

Is this the dopiness in the fog???

I'll be back later, gotta got to a meeting <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Hi going,

your H is great!!!! DO IT!!!!!!! As a BS I would say that this is definately showing "courage" because not many would be willing to make their affair public! This is something you "must" tell him, how prowd you are about him. Show him your admiration. (of course, only if you feel the same as I would)

Just the thought gives me the shivers. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

My H did almost everything, but he never would of done this. He was much too ashamed.

BB

What's up today, we are dying to know! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HOney

just got back from a meeting, see my update on my new post!!