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Re: One year anniversary - Update - Unbelievable
#1026765 09/08/02 11:44 PM
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D-Day #1 - 09/03/2001 EA, became PA (OM#2)
D-Day #2 - approx 10/01/2001 (PA before married, continued after married - details still
sketchy, OM#1)
D-Day #3 - 09/03/2002 fresh new EA starting (OM#3)
I'm 31, WW is 30, married 9 years, known each other for 14, no kids
Status: separated 06/04/2002, now moving on to Plan D"

She is sending you a very clear message as to what you should do. File for D and move on.
Re: One year anniversary - Update - Unbelievable
#1026766 09/10/02 12:46 AM
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tommaz:

"She is sending you a very clear message as to what you should do. File for D and move on."

In a sense, this is right. But that was J.R.'s sig line you quoted, so HE'S sending himself the clear message. I think his W is anything BUT clear about any of this.

Yep. J.R. knows what he needs 2 do here. And since it doesn't appear 2 make a difference for him 2 give her a little more time (while he's in plan B), then the right thing right now probably IS to wait.

Persevere,
Re: One year anniversary - Update - Unbelievable
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Yeah, I'm not expecting miracles here, but also - where's the fire... I'll move at my own pace, thanks. I've got plenty of things on my plate right now, and it'll all get done in due course.

What my sig indicates about Plan D is that whereas Plan B is definitely a "holding pattern" - not intended to be "moving on"... I intend to start the "moving on" process much moreso. My Plan D letter communicated that, and I'm "comfortable" with that stance.
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