</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ashirley:
<strong>…and don’t let these people who are so impatient with the feelings WS’s feel or the confusion we are going through, keep you from posting here. Ashirley</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am a FORMER WAYWARD SPOUSE.

I (and many others who've replied) told Cautious EXACTLY what can and probably will happen if he continues with this "friendship", so HE KNOWS exactly how to avoid it. I've experienced the pain, confusion, etc., of being a full-fledged WS, and I did my best to steer him away from what I (and my H) went thru.

Any pain he brings on himself, the OW or his wife from this point on is HIS OWN FAULT.

Lori

ashirley:

"I know that this board can be very harsh…and they have very little tolerance for WS and what we feel and our pain. But I know how hard it is to give up something that feels like we shouldn’t’ have to give it up. It might take you a long time to finally “get it” so continue to write and share your thoughts…and don’t let these people who are so impatient with the feelings WS’s feel or the confusion we are going through, keep you from posting here. Good luck. And do the right thing."

I am MARRIED 2 a WW, and I love her very much. I understand her pain - that I caused - more every day.

I agree that cautious should do the right thing. But I agree with Lori. He's been told what the right thing is by many, and he keeps starting new threads from the very same point in thinking. He gets nowhere, and it's very frustrating. Posting 2 threads like this detracts from people on this forum who are in real need, and are ready 2 do something about their si2ation if they can only learn how.

I'm predicting that cautious will start at least 5 more threads this month, and will still be mulling over whether it's okay 2 "do coffee" with this gal a month from now.

ol' 2long is REALLY done with this nonsense, now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

2long,
Your predictions are right on. Did you notice cautious has already started a new thread about the Monday lunch? Once again, the good catholic OW does not see anything wrong with the situation...poor cautious just can't understand it either <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I will add to your prediction, before the month is over he will be "doing" a lot more than coffee.

As someone else said, this is like a car accident, you know you should not slow down to look, but...oops!

continuing to shake my head... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />