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If she or her husband do call again, before they can get a word out. Just say, in the sweetest voice you can muster, "Please do not call me again. I am going to hang up on you."
If they persist on calling... "Please do not call me again. I need to call the police to start a restraining order against the two of you. I am going to hang up on you."
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OW must be lying. Calm yourself and believe your H. He would have no reason to fabricate an A. Keep away from the OW and her H. They are not helping your recovery. It's your M that matters - not what these other people think. You MUST move on and stay totally away from the other couple - absolutely no contact. Relax and take care of yourself. It's hard without your H there but you can still take care of yourself until you see him. Go for a walk or shopping or get your nails done - anything to keep your mind and self busy until his return. God bless you.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Tell him that you appreciate his being truthful with you and his wanting to work on your marriage. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I will definately do that. I actually feel sorry for her, and I told her that. At least my husband came clean, so we could start over with a clean slate. Her marriage is build on lies and deceit. But I don't have to look at her every day.. SHE has to look in the mirror and see herself, and I feel sorry for her. But I still hate her <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Still waiting for H to call me.. but actually feel better about us now than I did before all this morning drama... does that make any sense at all???? Maybe I really am losing my mind. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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Baby, When I spoke to the OW, she told me she didn't date married men. This was a year into the PA, AND she had just spent 5-6 hours with my H that afternoon. I also vote that the OW you are dealing with is a big old LIAR!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> Don't listen to her anymore, do as Zorweb suggests and hang up if you get anymore calls. At the very least, if your H is trying to get out of the marriage, he could be far more efficient than to tell you about the A...like a lawyer & divorce papers. I hope you can talk to him soon.
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Just spoke to H... he was stunned, he said "how do you even come up with stuff like that????" (referring to her) He swore that he didn't lie to me, he did have an affair, (now look at me, wanting reassurance that he had an affair <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> ) that he DOESN'T want a divorce, he will do anything and everything that i need/want to work thru this. That he loves and misses me very much..Said she is just saying / doing whatever she has to save her marriage. I feel better now. Thank you everybody,,, this has bee a really rough morning... sure hope the afternoon is better. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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Good, now do something special for yourself... maybe take a nice long bath and pamper YOU.
This was actually probably good for you and your H as it shows him that she is a horrible game player. Just for get her and her husband. They are both emotionally stunted.
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(((zorweb)))) thank you soooo much for staying online and posting to me. it helped so much, it let me know that i wasn't so alone. thank you thank you thank you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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BB,
Your are so welcome. There were others here who did the same for me in the summer of 2001 when I needed to so much.. so I'm more than glad to return the favor. This can be a very good place.
I'm home sick today.. nothing serious... it's an "I'm sick of work day" more than anything. So I just happened to be here.
Just glad that you've worked through this. Will check back in to see if your ok after I take a nap.
You have a great rest of your day.
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I'm glad you are feeling a little better BB. I am with the other posters.... this OW is LYING, big time. She's backpedaling like there's no tomorrow.
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