Hi Orchid!!

I don't remember when I found MB's but D-day was November of 2001. Orchid has been one of my saviours since then.

Things are going well. I have only been in recovery since Nov. 2002. Several false recoveries (H was still having contact). Anyway, FWS is very loving and supportive. NC with OW although she emails from time to time. She gets no response and FWS shows me if she comes up with another email address. She is kind of pathetic now. Not at all a threat.

My kids are well and I should say much better. They were affected by this whole thing. It is crazy when you look back and can see how much in your life was destroyed or effected in a bad way. FWS sees if now. Finally woke up. Not even a bit of fog.

I still come around and post some. Don't get alot of response though. I guess people don't recognize the name. It seems like people are stuck in their own drama. That is understandable. Take care all. wu

Have not been reading or posting for months. I am trying to move on and there are so many hard things to face here. I give credit to all those MBers who can continue on this forum to help others.

D-day was 4/01....I worked my best Plan A for months til I had to force WS to move out (9/01). He was very unsettled and depressed for months living in a small, uncomfotable apartment. Even though the freedom to be with OW was there, he regularly came to me to try to move back into our house and work on things. There was never any PROOF that he was willing to do anything so I never agreed to him moving back. He gave up his apartment in May 02 and there he was at our house negiotating to come back to work on M. I agreed relunctantly to give it a try and in one week he was confused and not sure again if he wanted to be married. I told him what I needed and he admitted eventually that he was unwilling to do anything. That is when I crashed----went on antiDs and plowed forward to rip myself from my home and kittens and neighborhood. I moved 11/02 and I am living in an beautiful apartment with peace and serenity. I am anxious to heal completely and looking forward to the day when I will EXPECT nothing from my WS. We are in the process of becoming legally separated but we are in friendly contact with each other. He is still "taking" care of me occassionally with car repairs and buying me things I need. He does seem real up and happy though when we talk so our M ending may be for the best. It was too hard for us to make it work and his refusal to make any changes or look at what would rebuild things was the deciding factor for me.

TW

That was 2002.

How are you guys now 2006?

Well, heck, if you are interested, I registered in 99 and was off the boards for several years.

Our twenty-fourth anniversary is today. I don't have a terrible story of infidelity and reconcilation to share, but I try to use MB principles in maintaining the relationship. IOW, it was good then, and it is still good now.

Regards,
rs0522

Thanks rs0522 Glad it is working well in your marriage.

D-day for us was in 2000 and I`ve been on and off of MB since May 2001.

We`re doing great. H has been sober for almost 5 years now.

We still deal with regular M issues, but nothing major. We both feel like a normal happily married couple.

For all the newbies...do the work and hang in there. Infidelity can be overcome. It`s not always a death sentence for the M.