Anyone from affairs-help wash up here? If so do you know what's up with the server?
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Bert

<small>[ December 17, 2002, 06:55 PM: Message edited by: mad:dad ]</small>

hi mad dad
it's unbreakable!

I thought you said affairs, help people. I was couriouse how. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

going through withdrawl from the sight been off line! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

i had a blow out here over the weekend! On the sight! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Have some interesting news to share, but cant yet! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Batten said the sight has been down before. So i hope it will be up soon.

<small>[ December 17, 2002, 06:22 PM: Message edited by: Heavy - Heart ]</small>

Hey UB <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !! Ya I noticed that after I posted it.I'll bet that was an attention grabber!!

So..Now your heavy hearted eh? Good name.

I look foward to this new info of yours!!

Nice to see a familiar ????Whatever.

md

Hi all

I am sort of here. Don't feel confident enough to post much. You guys no why.

Hopefully the other board won't be down for long.

MTB

Say MAD : DAD

How was the weekend with you W, sorry I forgot was it last weekend or the one coming up?

<small>[ December 17, 2002, 06:44 PM: Message edited by: M T B ]</small>

I know, I know I'm going crazy here! I too had some things to post! And am dying to hear UBs story too! (got a short version from OKnow)

Don't get me wrong, you MB people are great, it's just I miss my touch stone site -- got a lot of history there! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Miss ya guys.

How was you weekend MD -- Did you get lucky? Did your soft shoe (among other things) impress her? Did ya tickle her pink heehee

<small>[ December 17, 2002, 06:46 PM: Message edited by: libbystory ]</small>

Hi Libby

I know what you mean. I miss our homesite.

Currently, I am hiding from H's relatives, getting some peace and quiet for a few minutes. Have to get ready to go out for a late business dinner (yikes!). Wish me well - its been real tough couple of days.

Take care all.

MTB

That's right Libby!!Even Bert gets lucky once in a while!!

Very nice place!Very romantic.We had a good time. W made me do a striptease for her. Little did she know while I was preparing for my little show I slipped on about 4 pair of extra underwear so it took quite a while to get to the end if you know what I mean.

Just wanted to check in and see how you girls were doing.MTB don't be scared.I'll protect you if anyone trys to bite your head off

xoxo
Bert

Wa hoo MD! That sure doesn't sound like the Sesame Street I've been to. You devil you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

MTB - We're here for ya. That's all that matters. Sorry it's been a rough couple days. Let those crazy pack of people do their thing and you worry about you. I'm telling ya, don't let them over run you. Tell them where the fridge is and make your escapes! They'll be fine...You'll be fine.

MAD DAD

Thanks but I think you can understand my trepidation. XOW'S aren't exactly welcome here.

So much has happened since Friday, some good some not so good.

The good news is I got a promotion. I wanted to turn it down, but it would have raised to many suspicions with H. The promotion was announced at our company xmas party in front of everyone, I didn't know it was comming. The bad part, it means more travel with guess who!

You guys may remember, xMM is in town for business meetings this week, so NC is not an option. I spend all day with him yesterday and today, and we go for dinner tonight. So far so good but with things the way they are with H (no change in his "mood") its real hard.

Still trying to embrass that dang bull, but its slipping.

MTB

Libby

Thanks sweetie,

So far the family thing is fine. I am pretending I am at work all day and DELEGATING, DELEGATING, DELEGATING. If they don't like it tough. Its H that's sending me for a loop.

He can't seem to get past what I am now calling "his silent but deadly" attitude towards me. Heck even his brothers noticed it, and they don't notice anything.

How much is a gal supposed to put up with, its been over 3 weeks of this attitude.

Maybe I am pissing him off b/c I haven't been my usual self. In otherwords I have changed a couple of things about me. I have just let him have his "attitude", and have been going about my day as if nothing is wrong. At least on the outside. This comes from the realization that I can't change him, but I can change me. I have however tried to ask him about it. He says I am overreacting as usual.

On the inside, it sets of my triggers (for lack of a better word), and its been doubley hard since xMM is in town.

Still struggling, so far so good, but I don't have much faith today.

MTB

When I said make escapes...guess I didn't really mean that. But, sorry things have been so bad that you are drivin to this torn position.

Congrats on the promotion. Kinda weird that they wouldn't tell you first, but guess it shows they are so impressed with you that you deserve this promo! It just goes to show what a successful, self-motivated person you are! Others see you as self-sufficient and you shouldn't second guess your capabilities and strengths. Just get through this rough time and do all you can to maintain yourself. Make this time all about you!

Guess we were posting at same time. Now is not the time to get into it with H. Too much happening around you. Just do what you need to do to stay focused and sane for the next couple weeks. Enjoy the things that you enjoy in the holidays and let the your H deal with his family deal. You can address the issues later. Patience my dear, this too will pass.

Libby

I knew you meant "excaping" in terms of H's family.

If I had known about the promotion, I would have turned it down. Not that I don't deserve it, I have worked damn hard for it. But b/c I will have no alternative than to travel with xMM for the next couple of years due to contractual commitments.

Some more good news, I got a good bonus cheque along with the promotion, so I will have to book H and me a trip for February. A surprise Christmas present for H. Now I have to decide where or I will wait so H and I can decide together.

MTB

My vote: Greece! Gotta have dinner. Will talk more later about this promo thing. I'm sure it's weighing heavy on you.

congrats to MTB, AND MD!

I have a vishual MD! I bet that drove her crazy! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

MTB that's great news, just stay strong if you know what I mean. And I don't think people here will bite your head off. Your done with xmm. It's different. And theres lots of xws on here. I post here for spisific questions about the plans. Well corection used to post about the plans.

So did you all catch the battle with my h's ow on line! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> She posted here and her spew of indecenses tward me had her post shut down! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> I saved a copy on my hard drive. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
My h posted here as desided, that was fun too. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

But that's not the news!hehe
YOu have to wait and see!

I have a secret , I have a seceret. Na na a boo boo. He he he <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So libby the grape vine got to you. If you know my secret you can't spill it. Or I'll get ya! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hope to see you guys on our own sight soon!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Ziiiiiip <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Just got bits and pieces. Seemed it really rocked this site. Can't wait to hear your FULL story too.

Hi all.

MTB: Mixed reaction to the promotion. You say you deserved it, and so I'm sure you do. Doesn't surprise me. But why did that #@!# boss have to sully it! What a cheap/sneaky/underhanded way he did it, and the travel required, hmm - does he think you OWE him now? NOT! Of course you're smart to question his motives. The transparent *!@*!. Hey, I'll embrace that bull for you if you're a little tired of its weight right now. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I know you'll be ready to pick it up again soon.

As for xMM being in town and the necessary business contact - if it helps, think of all of us waiting to read your report. We could be like a rugby scrum, following you through your day! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> As if there aren't enough people crowding you in your own home! I know this was suggested ages ago, but any chance of finding a new job? Wouldn't the decrease in stress be welcome? And with your promotion, you'd be going from a position of strength that's sure to impress a future employer.

Your job, your H's mood, your in-laws...I'm guessing you're ready to say goodbye to 2002. The best news of all is the prospect of a getaway with H. I predict some wonderfully connecting times ahead. The fun can start with the planning, and your enthusiasm will be contagious.

unbreakable: you've got us all curious. I have a guess that I'll share later, after you've clued us in. Do I understand your H and his OW were HERE?! The unmitigated GALL! They never posted at "our" sight - they wouldn't DARE. Though I'm sure the good people at marriage builders took care of them and you. I hope you can keep the focus where it belongs - on your little angels. Do you celebrate any of the winter holidays? We're getting ready for Christmas in my house.

Does anyone know what exactly is wrong over at the board?

level

hey my friends! its hopeful.now from the other site...

i have wonderful news that i am just BURSTING to share.. so glad i found some of you here!

after 9 months since d-day h has finally agreed to write a no-contact letter and end what has been an almost 5 year affair.

i am soooooo happy!!!!

i am trying to love like i was never hurt, and i know things will still be rough and we have so much to work on... but finally BOTH OF US are working on the marriage! phew.

it was so true, as i have heard others describe.. it really was like a huge weight physically being lifted off my shoulders and off my heart.

there is so much more to share... but i will await my home board to share.

some of us do have a msn community of support if you wanna join us, private message me!

ok.now is away on holidays for 2 weeks
heartrippedout is having a hard time still with her ws, and he is still living away from home in contact with ow. as she goes into a shared christmas with her h, his family, her familly and their kids, say an extra prayer for her sanity and peace of heart!!! thank you.

cheers,
hopeful.now
aka maplesirup

maplesirup (hopeful.now). I love your name! That is indeed great news! UC is very, very envious, you know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

mad:dad, The other post has my info about when to start Plan B. You doing a striptease? Well, let me just say that some sights are better left unseen. The ladies may have liked the details, but Bert, I pass. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Alright H-H, I feel left out now <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> What is your secret? You know, I thought I may have posted on the controversial post, I'm not sure, but anyway I must have missed the part that made MB pull the plug. It seems to me you came out the strongest as I know you would. btw, don't feel you have to tell me what's going on: all in good time.

All: I like the MB forums and I've made some friends here but it is too busy. Affairs-help has a smaller community and that's what I love about it. MB people care about each other as much as affairs-help do, but the setting of affairs-help is more like a small town feeling.

After searching for the proper plan for saving my M I found that the MB web site offers me the plan I'm most comfortable with and I've spoken with Jennifer as well.

Anyway, I'm glad to see you all here and as you can tell no matter where I go I'm utterly confused. Funny, though, I'm beginning to see things more clearly now with all the help I've received from both sites, but that's another post all together.

Glad to see you all made it here!! It sounds like alot has happened since we last met.

MTB congrads on the promotion <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> !! Sorry it also came with strings attached <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> At least you'll get to do some traveling.

Hopeful I'm happy your H can now put an end to his A,and I have to give you a ton of credit for holding your chin up this long.

UB,I'm still waiting for that update?!

UC,your still a punk,but I got your back dude.Even if it's all the way from here in California.

Libby,and Level nice to see ya!!

md