</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Agnes:
<strong>(Actually, if my saw my H in a g-string I would ROFLMAO)</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">OMG. Me too!

Went to see the Nutcracker over the weekend. There were a couple of the male dancers in one part dressed in green from head-to-toe. They look like giant asparagus (asparagii?). My friend leaned over and asked if I could picture my H in that get-up. I was afraid they were going to ask us to leave we were laughing so hard. My sweet H would end up looking like a giant zuchinni, I'm afraid. (or maybe a cuke . . . )

I guess this is why my H never does things like a striptease for me--I just laugh too hard.

Neuse.

OMG, Neuse. I just spewed Diet Coke out of my nose...you are TOO funny...

Awesome news for both Hopeful and unbreakable!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Do these WSs have ANY idea how lucky they are?!? I sure hope so. We all know the work will come... but I hope you have chance to enjoy a honeymoon first!

MTB: I looked for a smilie with red cheeks - I'm so sorry I got mixed up there. I consider you a "special" friend and I blew it. I remembered another story as overlapping with yours. You were referring to travel with xMM, not with a lecherous boss. mea culpa

So, a long conversation with xMM, eh? You'd better book that getaway with H NOW! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

And thanks for the MB welcome, Pepper. We appreciate it. The more the merrier, right? It stinks that anyone needs such boards, but glad we found each other.

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thanks for all your heartfelt wishes!

it has been an endurance test of the heart, that is for sure. i will definetly fill you in on the no contact letter. i don't know if i believe hat this part of our lives is really over.

i am so thankful he gave us another chance.

thanks to each and every one of you for advice and support and prayers! i am not going anywhere though... as i have seen and learned so much, i want to continue to grow in my marriage, and i can't see doing it without the wisdom in our collective brain!

and you know what else? i am proud of myself, for sticking to my principles, for nursing him through this dark period, for my own loyalty and patience with him. i am a good person after all!

Hey guys,
It's me, 2Hearts. Just wanted to say, I'm here too. I read here pretty often and post occasionally. So glad we've all found each other.
UB and Hopeful, I am THRILLED to hear your news and right here at Christmas too!!! Our prayers have been answered. Feel like we're all sharing a victory here. A virtual HIGH-5 to you all!!!UB, Hopeful, I'll be standing by to hear stories of your amazing recoveries. I couldn't be happier for you. Hopeful, our birthday prayers were answered - just a bit late, but better late than never. Best of luck to you both and your H's. Mad:dad your striptease story cracked me up!!! I can just see ole Bert in his Scooby Doo drawers doing the PB&J dance. Whoa, SEXY!!! Can always count on you for some LOL stuff. UC, I'm hoping to hear some good news from you soon too. Sending (((hugs))) and well wishes across the miles. Don't get discouraged my friend. All in due time. Just hope for her sake she finds her way out of the fog before her true "Romeo" has moved on to greener pastures. And if he does, oh well, definitely her loss <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> .

Later,
Almost There (aka 2Hearts)

Hi all and welcome to MB. I know some of you have been posting for a while. It is nice to see you here helping each other out and good to know you have a great sense of humor!!!

It was sure quite an entry that was made here a few days ago. I sure hope decided stays on the straight and narrow.

This is a busy site. Many come and go. Often it is hard to keep up with everyone but you are always welcome to post here.

We are a crazy bunch sometimes and that is what helps us keep our sanity. The stories here are unreal. My viewpoint has changed so much after living through what I call a very bad soap opera (those OWs are a hoot!). It is interesting to see what some will stoop to, to take what is NOT theirs.

Anyways, welcome and hope ya all stay around a while.

Aloha,
L.

I just wanted to peek in and say HI! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

hugs
bb

Here I am again, trying to confuse everyone.

For those of you who don't know him mad:dad aka Bert IS his real name. I believe he is mad.

But anyway, a hint I've learned here at MB is that if you want people to reply to your posts, reply yourself to it so you can bump it up. It does work.

Welcome aboard.

Good Morning All

UC - how's it going today?

Good news...H's is out of his "mood". Yahoo!!!!

MTB

What a nice welcome from the MB gang! Guess we're all part of the same brother/sister hood!

MTB -- So happy to hear that! Care to share what finally got him out of his funk?

UC -- Been thinking about you lately...I know the holidays have to be hard. Just know you've got a lot of people around here who care!

Take care all,
Agnes

Hi all! It's Unbreakable here!

It's true my h is home!He's been thinking about this move for a while.He was defending her on the sight because people were a little nasty, besides me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> And he was there and had to justify his actions. Well any way he posted on AH looking for help the week before. Oddly enough I responded to him not knowing it was him. He said that he realized he loves her , but loves me and our family more. And that she is not the love of his life. He thought it was really over, and it would have been if he kept this up. He admitted he was a cake eater only because he thought I was waiting in the wings. Well we all know that in the fog good people dont allways think like they would normaly. So I was not upset to here that. We are getting all of his stuff out of the house within the next couple of days. We had our talk with the children. And everyone seems very happy. She's having a real hard time leting go. I do understand, but my h has made things really clear to her. But her perseption of reality past and present is going to be hard for her to get over. And I understand that. My h agreed to no contact. But yesterday he talked with her several times, becouse she wouldnt' stop calling, I think panic an denial are the words. Both normal of course. But I'm only being understanding of this untill the weekend. Then regardless of confusion , or an "emergancy" on her part, there will be no contact. My h made me feel really comfortable with this decision. He didn't want to loose me. And he reiderated that I din't pressure him, so this is the real deal. It what he really wants. So to say the least Im very happy.

I'm expecting withdrawl, but he even said it's the loosing a close friend that's going to be the hardest part. Batten said that he thinks his withdrawl won't be that bad, becouse this was a concouse decision on his part. And has made things crystal clear. No cover ups etc. So we'll see.

I'm in a rush , but you all always put a smile on my face with your sillyness. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Love you guys, I feel with out the coping skills I learned from you and MB, I wouldn't have my sanity or my h. There is no way that I can convay my feelings to you. I was so lost before , and you helped my grow strong, really be unbreakable! And those qualitys will be with me always! A new me! And the understanding of the fog, what it was and ment, helped me see through the anger etc. And alowed me to still love my h. My love could have died, but becouse of you all , it didn't it grew for him. He knows what a good catch <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> I am , and told me even if it took him years to get me back he would try.I told him he could move back only if he was SURE. Otherwise he would have had to go to his mothers. HE'S AT MY HOUSE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So decided, has decided. And now the real work begins! I'm looking forward to it!

love.
UNBREAKABLE/HEAVY HEART/GOOD CATCH/ME

<small>[ December 19, 2002, 01:45 PM: Message edited by: Heavy - Heart ]</small>

I wanted to thank you again, and show off my new signature on the bottom of my post.

Oh and UC, sorry no me you and the ROCKEYS! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

My MAN IS BACK! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I hope yours turns around too! Just let go, for you , you might be plesantly serprised.. Remember plan B is really a coping skill for you. But as you can see sometimes it's a wake up call for the WS's of the reality of what life will be, if they stay away!

Keep that in mind.

Thanks again all!

I think I'll have the pb&j song in my head for a wile, and will never think of it again without a vishual of you md!

Check you later! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh and UC, sorry no me you and the ROCKEYS! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
[/QB]</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh man! And I was sooo looking forward to it. I can't handle another rejection <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

But your reason is good enough for me, heck what am I saying I am utterly happy for you! That is great! I am envious. That is probably one of the best Christmas presents you've ever had. I bet you the kids are happy as well!

You did good and I will continue to have you and yours in my prayers because Level 2 now comes and I don't know how much harder it is, but at least you are working on it together: reconciliation.

Be well.

UB,

You're right -- the real work begins now. But, you'll be able to handle I'm sure! I'm so, so happy for you. When I read the update about you yesterday, I almost started to cry (and I was at work!) Already my H thinks I've lost my mind; I could add co-workers to that list! Anyway, it's amazing how we grow to truly care about each other, and wanted to let you know that we'll be here (or hopefully on A-H) during your recovery to help you through the rough spots. Hopefully they'll be few and far between. Hope your holidays are truly blessed.

Hugs to you, UB! Patty

So happy for you UB! WE ALWAYS knew you were a good catch, so glad your H came back to his senses and figured that out.

Hope she doesn't give you guys too much trouble and gets some help to overcome all this.

You guys need to just worry about you. Looking forward to hearing how you progress!

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UB

I am so happy for you I have happy tears in my eyes.

MTB

Hey!! Didn't think I'd make it today our server has been down all day,but better late,than never I guess.Glad to see 2 hearts could join the party the more the merrier.

Thanks for the welcome MB people.I hope once our site is back up and running you can come visit us.

my real name is Derrick, Bert is just what my W called me to try and tarnish my ego,It'll never happen though;I'm too studly <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

UB glad to finally get that update!! It was worth the wait darlin'

md

Agnes:

You asked why H got out of his "mood". He had a long talk with his twin brother and one of his sisters. They kinda ganged up on him and said he was being a miserable sh*t to me. They told him to get over the argument that we had over the family christmas thing. His sister also added that if her H did the silent treatment to her as often as H does it to me, she would have run for the hills years ago.

H was so worried that his family wouldn't feel welcome b/c I refused to do it all, that he had prepared himself for the worst.

Also, he wasn't quite used to me dealing with things "so cheerfully". Well you guys know that I didn't feel cheerful, in fact I was really frustrated, but I didn't let H see that this time, b/c I was trying to make some changes in me.

I asked him why he wouldn't tell me this when I asked. Still havent had time to get an answer on this as the family is all here.

I am just glad that he is in a better frame of mind.

I think the bottom line is this. H and I are both trying to make changes for the better in our marriage. Sometimes were not sure how the other will react/deal with these changes since both of us are still trying to break old habits.
Its new ground for both of us.

P.S. This year I don't feel so overwhelmed with all his family here. They are ALL pitching in and we are all enjoying each others company for a change. It feels good.

Take care all,
MTB

Unbreakable -- Though I already knew the gist, I just want to say PUBLICLY that I am so happy for you...proud of you...you've shown so much strength and patience. I wish you and your H well in this new stage of recovery.

MTB -- So happy for you, too! It's always about communication, isn't it? If we could all share with our spouses what we're thinking, what we're concerned about, and vice versa, it sure would make things easier! I think that's something we're all here trying to learn to do better. I guess you consider these growing pains? I'm glad that you were able to get the "air cleared" so that you guys can enjoy the holidays.

I'm going to be offline tomorrow evening through next weekend...I'm sure I'm gonna go through withdrawel! But in case I don't get a chance to express this tomorrow...

Let's all start working on our list of new year's resolutions to be the best we can be in 2003...

I wish all my friends here a safe and peaceful holiday; you will all be in my prayers!

Agnes

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