I apologize, D99H.<P>I don't know what you're going through. But to try to seek ways to overcome is the best for everyone. <P>I know this may be off topic, but last night I was looking through pics of what my H took when he was in India, and remembering what he told me that these poor people are going through. But he said that their attitude towards one another and in general was one of love and perseverence. It just puts things into perspective to me, we can be dished out some horrible things in life, but some choose (even in the worst circumstances) to overcome them.<BR>

Maya,<BR>I know how you feel. I still have hateful thoughts about my OM. He did his part to destroy my marriage and moved on without missing a step. Be thankful that you still have your marriage, your husband has been loving and kind, and you two are rebuilding. Did you ever see "Superman" the movie? I wish Superman was here, and he could just fly around the planet backwards and reverse time and all this crap could be "undone". It really does sound like you two have made the best of this crisis. The bad days get fewer and fewer, and the good days get more and more frequent.<P>D99H,<BR>I don't know why I'm even responding. God knows I've very sincerely asked you questions in the past, and you've never responded to me. If you are such the moral person you seem to portray yourself as, why don't you release your wife from the continued hell YOUR actions (seem to be) creating? That means divorcing her if you can't forgive her OR just forgive her. You (seem) to love your pride and wounded manhood MUCH MUCH more than you ever loved your wife. Been there, done that, with my ex, and you know? Even though I didn't want the divorce, life has been ok since I stopped having to deal with his almost daily punishment. Your wife will figure that out someday too unless you figure it out first.

DISGRACE99, (actually you might consider changing your name to Buzzkill or MLC - Misery Loves Company)<P>I have no idea what you're talking about as far as me "telling your business," but that said, sure, you can recap about me self admittedly sleeping with and having sex with another man. Oh, but guess what? My H was sleeping with and having sex with another woman too! Oops, kinda messes up your nice little "good guy, bad guy" program, doesn't it? <P>Or maybe it makes BOTH me and my H scums of the earth in your eyes. And that works fine for me, since it is only my H who has to deal with me and me who has to deal with him. I'd say we're a match made it heaven, wouldn't you?<P>Now, shoo fly, don't bother me!

New Woman,<P>Right on. I like your sense of humour.

Hi Student,<P>Glad to see you around here lately. Could've used your assistance a few times when I was getting clobbered, but I survived. I consider, you know who to be just a little annoyance, and nothing more. Kind of like that pesky little fly who tries to spoil your picnic. You kind of just keep fanning him away, which is a little bit of a drag, but doesn't really spoil the party all that much!! <P>------------------<BR>Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God.

New Woman,<BR>You are great, I love reading your words. <P>DG99(H)