<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> I made a mistake posting, I hit the Add reply before I even typed anything. I hope the caretaker will delete it.
I wanted to say is I too am with an alcoholic. I see we have this in common here. I also see this is how it is. It doesn't matter if you are Miss American, or not, this is how they will be.
It seems they get bored, wanting a new life with all that is on tv and the newness of another relationship that is brand new falling in love without the hard work of making an effort to fixing the one that they are in. Isn't it easy when someone doesn't know them that will bring them the desire to want to make an effort to be with them, all for the newness of it all, but then the new ones find out and then the sh** hits the fan, this is my opinion in what I see and have experienced so far and what I am reading here and other sites on infidelity.....I am not married to my boyfriend, we do live together. It's been hell and back several times for his reactions to me on any given situation. It wasn't always like this, however, he hid it good since we were not together, then dating, always at his club doing club work on the drug awareness project, isn't it amazing. he blames me for everything, it is to the point I realized, how can one person be always wrong all the time! I say whether drunk or sober if they are seeing another You will always be wrong for that is the way of the friends he keeps....CHARACTER......as a man emailed me once I guessed from a post I had lefted and I think it effected him when he read it and felt bad enough to want to send me a reply. I just felt so bad that time, and I still do, I am numb with pain now....but back then I remember posting and I know I must have left a post that would break anyone's heart and still didn't touch on the worse of it......I feel like I've been to a war and barely survived.....in my case my boyfriend of long standing, has fought tooth and nail for his freedom, yet that is not how it started. yet it is like others older much much older than I mentioned to me that something wasn't too good ahead of me. I in love and blinded not seeing the truth, not wanting to, but after awhile I grew angry for it all. These older folks not any relation to each other knew the way of this life style. To me a waste of life My life, wasted trying to fix what was wrong with me when there wasn't anything wrong with me. The image of the new conquest.....the human nature of it all, is sick to push the marriage thing on people by all this advertising on family......just isn't fair, then the women flaunting themselves on tv and showing the men what they are missing, human nature makes them this way and they drink for frustration within themselves for they have to have the all of the top of the line in relating, sexual conquests for sure they will tire of them too.....on and on and on......I will tell my daughters this is most men.
Society tells them to settle down when in fact it is against their nature......that is why the courts don't jail them if adultry is against the law then why is there divorce, to compensate the males........women are taught to go on like good little girls, oh well we didn't promise you a rose garden......I do feel cheated big time by Society rules.......a false reality.....Reality....if women had no children would the politians be here? Bet then there would be something done then......a losing battle....is that why women are turning to careers and being the head of the game....holding off children, now what happens to society.....there will be no one to pay for social security........because the men want their freedom too damn much.....let them pay for the retirees that worked so hard to be able to retire. Not enough children being born anymore I wonder why.........with all the alcohlics, why bother bringing sweet innocent children into a life that will bite them in the behind sooner then later......just a farse from the males not all males but enough of them to ruin peoples lives.....sorry for my strong opinions.....just how I see it now........where is the American Dream........bachelorhood hill the dream world of men and that is why marriage doesn't work....for they know that they can have many instead of one, without counseling.....
