Sorry about not posting. I have been keeping busy (I leave on my trip tomorrow) and have not heard from my wife since Plan B day. This weekend is her cousins wedding and she is taking OM here is the email she sent out (from our Joint email account I know I shouldn't have checked it but I did) to her family

It is rather obvious to me that the affair is really strong even after eight months. I think I am truly at the point where I am about ready to let go. I still Love her but I honestly think that if she was to ask for me to sign papers I would.

PB

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Hello,

Well one more sleep for me and I am on my journey home for what I hope will be a nice relaxing hot vacation. I will be driving down as originally planned which should work out pretty good with all the daylight we are getting right now. I should arrive in BLANK sometime Thursday evening if all goes well.

At the current time I am unsure if I will be making the trip alone or with OM. I figure that it would only right if I forwarned you that he may be making the trip with me as well this will give me a chance to explain a few things to you about our relationship and the history behind it so that you will be able to better understand what has happened over the past 8 months.

Last summer while Polar Boy was gone during the strike I realized that I was much happier when he was away then when I was with him, that the bond I entered into with him was not what I really wanted. I was more in love with the thought of getting married than the person I was marrying. I realize that this may seem harsh but there is no other way for me to explain it. It was unfair of me to put Polar Boy through this as it is was unfair to myself for allowing it to happen. Although Polar Boy and I did have some fun times the sadness I felt the rest of the time outweighed the good and I knew that I had to do something to change this. So when the strike was over I tried really hard to make things work and seem normal but I knew as well as Polar Boy that things were not the same.

By mid-October I knew that something had to change. So while I was drifting further away from Polar Boy I ended up finding a great friend. At the end of October I went on a business trip to Blank where I ended up meeting OM for the second time (first time was a meeting in May, where nothing happened I don't think we even talked). The four of us who went down together (OM, Woman, Man, and I) ended up spending lots of time together at meetings and in the evenings, etc. OM and I clicked right away and had lots of good conversations. When I returned to Blank we kept in contact and met up often when he was in town. At this time he did not know that I was married, it wasn't until about a month later when I left Polar Boy that he really knew and understood what had been going on. Up until that point when I left Polar Boy all we were was friends and nothing else happened. OM even had reservations about us continuing our relationship since I was legally married. He suggested that we wait until I was divorsed to continue but I asked him to stay with me regardless.

Over the past 8 months OM and I have formed a very close friendship and bond. He is an important part of my life and I want you to understand that. He did not take me away or convince me to leave Polar Boy, I did that all by myself and he didn't even know until after it was done. He has supported me in every decision I have made since then and I have appreciated that more than anything. He is a great person who is special to me and I want him to meet the other important people in my life who I love more than anything, my family. I realize that this may be awkward but I know that I have a great supportive family who are very accepting of other people. It would mean the world to me if you could welcome him into our family like you have every other persons who has touched us even if it was for a short period of time. I respect all the opinions and beliefs that you have all shared with me on this situation and hope that you can respect the decisions that I make in my life.

Anyway I just thought that I should share this with you and give you a heads up. I will let my mom know for sure if he is coming when I know which will most likely be tomorrow when I drive through OM home town on my way home. I am looking forward to seeing you.

Love and miss you lots

Wife

It looks to me like she is still deep in the fog.

"he is a great guy that has supported me"
Yes he has, supported her in committing adultry.

PB,
go on the trip, then come home and tell us what you want to do. I think you will proabably know by then.

SS

Just a short update.

My trip was great. And something happened while I was gone. The OM was arrested for for assault, aggravated assault, forcible confinement, uttering threats and a variety of firearms charges. I don't know what this means and whether or not my wife was involved but it has certainly got me thinking.

Prayers are always appreciated.

Well I sent an email out to a couple of my wife's family members (the ones I keep in touch with) to find out if she was alright. This is the response she sent to my email from her cousins address.

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Hello {Polar Boy},

This is {Wife} emailing you although you have requested that I not contact you I felt it necessary to respond to you myself. I am fine although rather upset and in shock that {OM} has done this. I have been in Saskatchewan for the past 2 weeks and was not around when this incident occured however was contacted by many friends and {OM}’s family since then. I have also been in contact with OM myself.

Just so you know I think that it was rather unnecessary of you to email this to my auntie and hope that those listed were the only one's that you have emailed about this. Trudy and Jeremy do know about this as well as my mom but other than that know one else has been informed nor will they be. I feel that there is nothing that they need to know until {OM}is formally charged and still then they will probably not be notified then. Anyway I am going to go for lunch with Cousin and start my long drive home.

Later

{Wife}

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Subject: Have you heard about this and is {Wife} alright?

> As you probably know I am no longer in contact with {Wife}. It was just too difficult. However I saw this article in the paper and I am concerned as to whether {Wife} is alright. Have you heard any thing from {Wife} about this? Is she involved? Is she okay? I am rather concerned.
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> {Town} - First nation chief {OM} was facing a total of eight criminal charges in a B.C. courtroom Thursday.

{OM} is facing charges of aggravated assault, forcible confinement and various firearms offenses.

{OM} is charged with assault, aggravated assault, forcible confinement, uttering threats and a variety of firearms charges.

He was to appear in a court-room in {Town} with a telephone link to a judge in another {Town}.

{OM} was arrested by the {Town} RCMP in {Town} earlier this week.

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She also sent this note

Oh and by the way in this matter with {OM} you should have contacted me first and foremost regardless of whether or not you wanted to speak with me. You could have ended up worrying my family for no real reason.

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No real reason? This guy is arrested for threating someone (his ex common law wife) and I am worring her family for no reason.

FOG

I believe if she supports OM in this, you will know what you need to know.

It may be time for you to find a girl with your same standards and goals.

SS