Neesha

I hope you are feeling a little brighter today. Know that I am thinking of you over here in sunny London.

Closure - well that's a hard one. I felt for a while that I had no closure with OM. Then I took the situation into my own hands and sent him a text, where I actually said "This is closure, goodbye". I could do that, take charge. 2 days later however, he rang me.....

When my dad died, he was dead and burried for 6 weeks before we even knew. We only found out by chance because my sister wrote to him and a letter came back from his partner. It was horrible, there were so many unaswered questions, and the thought that someone else had made the decision about our relationship (albeit a rather loose one) with him. For years, it upset me so much, I couldn't even talk about him without crying. There were so many questions only he could answer. One day, I just realised, it was completely out of my grasp and I could do nothing, and I let it go - but I left it way too long in reality.

I don't know how you get over it, I don't know what you do. But you know your H is not willing or able to give you want you want - the answers, to your questions. Maybe one day he will, maybe not. So what do you need to do for yourself to help you through this? I like the idea of eating what you shouldn't for dinner <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I'm sorry this isn't terribly helpful, but thinking of you and wishing you well from sunny London

Lisa