Chris,

I don't consider my self as an employee, more like a partner. I feel he would agree.

He has made it clear that I don't make the rules. Or the decisions. The employee's would come to me and ask me a question, I give an opinion and then finish with "but I don't really know you need to talk to Boss." We had a talk about that and it pissed him off that they would go to me. So I said "No prob. From here on out I will only answer with go to you."

That is what is so frustrating. He wants to be the Boss.(and in my eyes he is, this is his company, his dream.)But he can't be "The bad guy"

He treats the employee's more like friends & buds then employee's. They know everything about our personal life, nothing is a secret.

Far as paychecks for tax purposes, I agree with you. I talked to him about that a while ago. He said he would think about it and get back to me.
NOTHING.

Far as documentation....once again I agree. I think that there should be a personal file on every employee. Everything should be documented.
CHRIST! He doesn't even have a time clock.
They don't have to punch in or out. No time sheets, nothing.
They leave early when it isn't busy and will still get paid for it.

Your right, I did bring it up about the phone calls.
He knows everything that I do, knows that it is a lot to handle and that I have been majorly stressed out. (I am one to always take on way more then I should, to help others out.)

I went to him as a W. To help me. To take some of the load off. I thought that answering the phone every other day was pretty fair.

This is still HIS Business.

To everyone that responded,

Just an update.

I asked him if he thought about going to counceling. He said he had and found a couple of places. I asked him to make an appointment, didn't matter what day. That was 3 days ago. I haven't heard anything since.

This is such a sad time for me.

I have come to the realization that even with all the counceling in the world it won't change what the problem is. This has been going on for over a 1yr & 1/2.I feel as though it is d-day all over again.

We never had a chance.

We both believe in the Harley Principles but you can't just pick and choose the ones you want to use/apply. We never really have applied them (although I have asked several times)

Maybe he never really believed in them at all.

Still even if we had, and gone to counceling, it wouldn't matter. She will always be a part of our lives. That is something that I can't live with any longer.

All I ever wanted him to do is respect me and my feelings. Love me enough to do what ever it takes to make me feel loved and secure. As long as she is in our lives I will never have that.

I know that I am not perfect and that I have made mistakes. I am one that behaves in such a way that when I see a problem, I think about it, find a solution and fix it. I just don't sit around and boo-hoo poor me. I take action.
When your in a relationship with someone it isn't that easy. I have asked time and time again for something to happen, for us to do something, work together, find the solution together and fix it. But what we both have failed to realize or admit is that we have known all along what the problem is and what needs to be done to fix it. I know now, or finally able to admit to my self that what needs to be done will never happen.

I really thought this one was it. I want this relationship to work, but I can't do it on my own. I feel as though I have been fighting for this relationship from the very begining. It just hurts.

All I want him to do is hold me and tell me that he does love me and that we will get through this come hell or high water.

This is so sad, there is nothing left for me to do.

Thanks for listening.