Thanks again folks. I am reading all your posts from time to time and appreciate them all (lots of wisdom there). I think my W realizes this is for her own good and for that our M ....

Dear Mymove, I clicked over and read your story and I want to tell you that your courage is amazing and wonderful.Thank you for sharing something that is more help to us BS's than you can know.Also a help to WS's and those who come here considering having an A.
I am sorry that you have had to go through this hell on earth.Thank you for reaching out in all honesty to others. I sincerely hope that you find healing and recovery. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Hearthealing,
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> You were wise,,,my husband did this fifteen times in the past 9 years, and it blew up into FAR more, including joining dating services, lies beyond belief, meeting some of them real time, making hotel reservations, and buying condoms,</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My mind and heart is reeling to think of this happening 15 times when 1 time has been so devastating for me. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Oh,what a tangled WEB to weave.A new play on words.The internet has many ways to "feed" these many compulsions and addictions.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> and to anyone that would tell you that an EA can't be as damaging as a PA, I am here to tell you they are DEAD wrong,,,,Holly </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You are absolutely correct! I sincerely hope that you will continue to know God's grace upon you and your M that you spoke of. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> kk

Lions,

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I came close myself one time a few years ago to an EA (she was a co-worker divorced woman who took walks with me at lunch; she was a fellow Christian and had similar interests but was giving me signals she was open to more than just friendship after awhile). I quit taking walks with her when I sensed it was starting to get more involved than just friendship. Before I stopped taking walks with her I prayed about it and told my wife, who agreed I should stop so I did. I have only had acquaintances with other women since that time since I realized I had been inadvertently playing with fire and had almost gotten burned by it.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Let me validate you again.
You have got it right.You are not paranoid. You are functional,alert,moral and very wise.Keep up the good thinking and the good work. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> kk

Thanks, Kings Kid, Rob S, My Move, and HeartHealing for sharing your hearts. You are all awesome and I will keep you in my prayers, as I hope you keep me in yours. You all have answered my question very thoroughly and I feel comfortable that I am doing the right thing for our M by requesting my W to not have any "friendships" beyond the acquaintance level in the future with other men. Thanks again everyone. I got the answers and support I was looking for on this topic and can continue to move forward with my recovery ....

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> kk