Thanks Nellie and CSue-
Yes, FN is a high need of mine, and after today and a bit of talk with wh, I do think he wants to be more a trad. h, which I deep down knew when I married him, he just can't figure it out right now.. this is the part I have to be careful about and loving and not disrespectful- about the way we discuss it, for today he has sd he feels guilt and is sorry he doesn't have more right now... so I feel a little better, I still want real action, but his saying he wants to do better helps a bit.
Still peeved a bit, but counselors tonite worked with us on not backing one another into a corner and giving each other a break... and what else...? A little role playing and better communication... it helped. Our focus was not the fn I have, joint counseling advised me to discuss this in ind. right now.. where I got the message I have to turn this to prayer for now. I can only take care of what i have to take care for now, and let him go, praying can help. God can work miracles.
The more J sees me act Christ-like the more he is drawn to this better type of living.
Thanks for all this support, for now I am turing it to prayer as much as I can and will try to not explode over this issue and be patient... he needs more time, and I do think time will help.... he just may get a new good job again soon! Let's hope! It is possible, he has done it before.
So, for now I will not back him in a corner and learn to love him while I pray for this area of his life.
Still it is a boundary for me on his return to our home, he must be financially responsible for himself and our family. Otherwise I could not and will not live... like we do now... for now there is seperateness and that should help us both grow.
Thanks for all the great posts today- this is definitely a sore subject for me, I feel better just talking about it.
I still have to take son to piano and we have to eat dinner, thanks for the posts!
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Thanks, H
