my husband has had 4 internet affairs and those are the ones I have figured out, I figure I am not as smart as I think I am so there must be one or two I wasnt smart enough to figure out ? But what baffles me is people on the net scare me I cant imagine meeting someone you have met online, becaue frankly chances are they are not what you think, but I wont speak to people on line, although I do to my friends that I know personally and family, I have talked to a few bs and ow on mb's who have been very supportive, but meeting some man on line is not appealing or attractive at all and I am at a loss as to why my husband would find intrest in that. makes me sick.. I know sounds funny considering I was an ow who has a child by a mm.

To ArtfulDodger: You asked how I'm doing...well,6 months past D-Day,we're still riding the roller coaster of emotions, but the highs and lows are leveling off somewhat,and recovery is going as good as can be expected at this point.

To mom of five: I can understand your qualms about meeting people from the Internet. I never would have gotten involved with just any old stranger from any old site,either. My EA occurred after interacting for two years with the OM on a Christian forum that is actually very wholesome and spiritual!

The truth is, the Internet is just like any other thing...there are sleazy,yucky sites,and sleazy,yucky people; but there are also wholesome,beneficial sites, and perfectly nice and normal people.

Take,for instance,this site. There are some wonderful people who post here.

There are serious dangers in interacting with the opposite sex,though,even if the site is wholesome and the person is perfectly nice. If you "click" with someone on the internet, it's easy to quickly feel as if you know them very well while sharing thoughts via e-mail,instant messaging and chat.

I will no longer be I-M-ing or chatting with people of the opposite sex...in fact, we no longer have a computer at home,and I don't I-M or chat with anybody. This is a good safeguard,IMO. I'm a very sociable person who enjoys getting to know people and conversing with them, so I will have to be very careful in my internet dealings in the future.

sincere

I agree it is a very good safe guard. we leave a messenger up for relatives as we are spread out in several countries and many states. so it helps stay close to family. How ever my husband does not use the computer at home any longer for this very reason.

but now he travels and is on his own alot so if he is gonna do it I wont be able to stop him. However I dont feel he is, we have really conected for the first time in years and feel we are in a good place, although I never let my guard down completely.

Then again if he wanted to here I would not be able to stop him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
sooner or later we will just have to trust. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Thats where I'M at now, and not doing to bad with it, but the triggers are still there once in a while.
my husband always summed it up as a one night stand so whats the big deal. took him years to understand it was a big deal.