Had to bump you - you almost fell to page II.

We can't have that now...

Pretty slow around here the last coupla days. I'm writing an article and wishing for distractions and there's no one around to play with. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

C

What's the article about?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kily:
<strong>What's the article about?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Someone to rescue me!! Thank you!! LOL

It's for the TC version of Premier Bride and it's about rethinking what is contained in the marriage vows. Specifically that we can't promise to love someone for life when love is dependent on how we are treated. I propose that we promise instead to create and maintain the conditions that allow love to flourish. Somewhere around 900 to 1000 words. Should be a piece of cake, but the sun is shining and it's Friday and.. and.. and....<sigh>

C

How about:

"To lurk, snicker, and get as much out of the MB Infedelity forum as I possibly can in order to protect our love banks so we stay in love for all the days of our lives?"

36 words!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

It has been raining here for fourty days! I;m looking for the old guy with the animals and the boat to come floating by my window.

You know you're in trouble when you have ducks swimming in your company's parking lot... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Good Luck.

Thanks, kily, for the bump and for keeping me at the forefront.

I suppose I'm not quite as interesting anymore when I'm not creating drama for myself. I must admit, the last month this thread has been quite exciting, with things happening as fast as they did. I don't think I can ever make it as thrilling as that again, sorry to say. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I can keep checking in with some thoughts, questions, and of course keep you all informed on the divorce process as best I can. Let you know how it's going, how I'm feeling, etc. If nothing else, I hope many are lurking at this thread and learning from it. There's a wealth of knowledge here, so many good people contributing.

Cerri, the notion of changing the vows is a good one. I'm not sure how tongue-in-cheek your article may be, but it certainly is an interesting proposal. As we've discovered here, vows are very easily broken by some and it's a shame, maybe less couples would get married if they actually listened to and understood just how serious those vows were.

ALS

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kily:
<strong>
It has been raining here for fourty days! I;m looking for the old guy with the animals and the boat to come floating by my window.

You know you're in trouble when you have ducks swimming in your company's parking lot... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Good Luck.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Funny! So, Have you found the old man and the animals yet?!?!? BTW, you know it's bad when you have squirels, birds, rabbits, ducks swimming and cleaning themselves IN YOUR BACK YARD!!! That happened to us 2 years ago.

Cerri and Kily, you both have mail!! Where's my phone call??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

als ... how is it going? curious how you are and what's been happening since the last post.

and ^bump^ ... don't want you hanging out on page 2.

Hey whippit and other fellow readers...

Not too much exciting stuff going on lately, but I will give you all the latest!

I had a fun weekend with a beer festival on Saturday with my friends, and a family wedding on Sunday. I'm sort of sick today from all the activity, got a bad cold or something, so I'm home from work. But it was fun!

In the mail today I received the signed confirmation card from W's divorce paper packet. So I know she has received it. She's been "served" now. So I can now see a notary this week and have a few things signed on my own.

And this Wednesday I'm 30 -- I don't anticipate any acknowledgement from W though I am sure I will at least cross her mind. There's probably like a 1% chance she'll call, but given the fact that sending the PB letters to OM and her parents took us from being on cordial, speaking terms to her hating me, I don't expect anything from her at all.

Now, this Friday is when I get together with W to sign over the car to her, and I also plan to have her sign the marital settlement agreement at the same point. After that, there should be no reason to communicate with her at all for months.

Remember, I haven't even spoken to W since I sent the PB letters. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I should handle the meeting? For example, if she is cordial and polite I'll be the same. But I suspect she may bring up the PB letter incident, and tell me to never email OM or her parents again. Just sounds like something she'll say. How do I respond to that. Just say "okay?". If she tries to start an argument do I just tell her I don't want to argue, let's sign the papers and go? In other words, just try to cut the visit short and leave it at that?

My intention after Friday is not to talk to W again at all until September when the 90 days divorce window is up and I need her to sign more things (In fact, I already told her the exact date in September I want to get together to sign the next set of papers, though I suspect I'll remind her of that again).

Any thoughts?

ALS

Oh, one other thing too -- There is still a few bags of W's stuff here, and her rocking chair. Do I bring this stuff along with me on Friday or should I leave it here? Leaving it here of course gives her an excuse to come to the house at some point to get it, where as if I give it to her she should have no reason to come over at all anymore. I don't know why she still has it here, unless she likes the fact a few of her things are still here, but she hasn't asked me to bring this stuff...yet.

Thoughts?

ALS

ALS:

Heck, I'd let her figure out what she's going 2 do about the stuff. Whatever her reasons for leaving it... I don't think you need 2 appear 2 be pushing her away any more than you might be now. If she feels she needs an "excuse" 2 contact you at some fu2re date, then so be it... ...unless you're tripping over that rocking chair every time you walk past it...

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> 2long

ALS-

I agree. Keep it. Let her come to you. She left it there so that she could have an opportunity to see you again. Trust me on that....

Fat lady still isn't singing, no matter how it looks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kily:

Fat lady still isn't singing, no matter how it looks. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Very true but she's been packing on those kilos with a vengeance chomping on all those twinkies, ding-dongs, and ho-ho's.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Getting prepared for the big debut? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kily:
<strong>Getting prepared for the big debut? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yep and waiting for a big enough dress to fit in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:

Very true but she's been packing on those kilos with a vengeance chomping on all those twinkies, ding-dongs, and ho-ho's.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hey!!!! Are you talkin' about me again???

Ok, ok... so it was a bite size snickers.... but it could turn into a sugar frenzy at any moment! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I agree, let the stuff sit. If she wants it she'll let you know and you don't want to look like you're trying to eradicate all trace of her from your life.

C

CoffeeMan -

WHAT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> You want to fit into a dress???? And here, all this time, I thought you were really a man!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Or are you two just talking about Cerri and I and all the sugar that we eat???

ALS! Finally, I have a few minutes to chime in here! I agree COMPLETELY with what Kily said. She left it there for a reason. I did the same thing (althought it was an unconscious move at the time). She will come to you when she is ready to get her stuff. Until then, Move her stuff somewhere where you don't have to see it every day!

Just my two cents worth!
Hey Kily - Are you ever going to call me back?!?!?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks, all, for the advice on her stuff. My insinct told me that leaving it here was the best best, regardless of the divorce. I have it put away in a place where it's not really in my way at all.

I figure if she asks for it, before this Friday or sometime after, she is welcome to come and pick it up at the house at her leisure.

I know I'm supposed to be going back into an all-out Plan B mode once I have all the paperwork signed this Friday, and that is still my intention, but if she has a need to contact me for anything during the summer, I suppose I can entertain that depending on the reason.

ALS

Well Happy Birthday to me! I turn 30 today. My 30th year on the planet sure has been an interesting one.

I was surprised to see an email from W when I woke up this morning. Before you get excited though, it was just a request to move out appointment from Friday to Monday. Apparently she is having some trouble getting her car insurance set up. That was it. Not even a mention of my birthday even though I'm sure she knows it's today. I can't help but wonder if she went out of her way to write today and NOT mention it. Sure hurts a little.

Be that as it may, I'll try and not let that get me down. I really never expected any birthday wishes from her anyway, though I'm surprised she didn't even care enough to say anything given the fact she chose to write me today ANYWAY. I'm going to write back to her now and just let her know that moving the appointment to Monday will be fine.

That being said, I'm off to work now but will hopefully have a nice birthday. A pal of mine is taking me out for dinner and drinks tonight, should be fun, and as always I've gotten lots of cards and calls from friends and family already, so that's great. Makes me thankful for them, and also thankful for all of you. I've learned so much this year, and I'm better for it.

Talk to ya'll later.

ALS

The Birthday Boy has enterted the forum....Okay everybody 1....2....3....Happy Birthday to you, Happy Birthday to you. Happy Birthday Dear ALS. Happy Birthday to you.

Now blow out tyour candles....oh wait...it's TMCM jumping out of the cake in some FAT Lady dress! WOW! What a guy! Nice legs...wahoooo.

And about the email....she Did wish you a happy birthday ALS- only it's from FOG land so you didn't understand it! She needs an excuse to contact you silly! Just insert Happy Birthday where she said I can't and you'll get it.......where's that FOG translation book? Yoohooo WAT...we need that book?

Happy Day buddy!