Hi! The OW that entered our life was a pyschotic bipolar freak. Without us knowing, she stalked my husband and I for 4 months before the affair started (she was setting up the plan to take over my life, I am surprised she didn't actually try to kill me). Then for the next 15 months she stalked me (with out me knowing ) and spied on my husband when they were not together.
When the 15 month affair (I actually call a fling) ended, she continued to stalk me, and threatened my life for 6 months. For thoses 6 months, I never went to town alone. My husband accompanied me everywhere. I got enough evidence, taped phone call from her and many witnesses of her threatening my life. Then she was quiet for 6 months, then it started all over again. That is when I got the restraining order for one year. It was actually quite easy to get. I was hiding in a car when she got the first notice handed to her to appear in court. Boy, was she shocked. She did not come to court.
But from the rumors I hear now, she said to her friends when the restraining order is expired, she is going after me again. Why? Because she says that my house that I OWN should be hers and that I had ruined all of her plans to live a life with my husband. (She is 28 and my husband is 54). I could go on and on about the things this crazy girl wrote in the letters she gave my husband, but I won't. Maybe next time.

Kasi

My 17-year-old son is psychotic (when he is off his meds) and bipolar ... I don't think he's a freak, but he does suffer with an affliction not of his choosing.

You may want to consider the feelings of mentally ill people before you call them a "freak".

Hundreds of people may read your post, and the chances of some of them being bipolar is pretty good.

Take care.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Not to hijack, but:
Thanks, Pepper, again for your kindness and wisdom. The mentally ill need us to protect them, and say what they perhaps can't say at times.

I too have a family member who is bipolar, and he certainly isn't a freak of any sort. I love him dearly, and consider him one of the most brilliant, caring, and loving persons I know. As you said, people suffer from this illness through no fault of their own.

It's a common misperception to think that all mentally ill people are violent or predatory.

Jazzy girl-Sorry for the mess that was brought into your life through the A.

H_P

Jazzey

Thank you so much for taking the time to read about me.

It has been very difficult to say the least. I really dont know how to take him right now, but you are right..just like your H my WH has been terribly depressed for months. Just like you nothing I did made a change. Well enough of me.

Congrats on the impending blessant event!!! How wonderful. I am so happy for you and it sounds as though things are finally getting back to normal. Well anyway please keep us posted and I hope you are feeling well. I will be checking in.
God Bless!!

Lisa

I am responding to those who may not have understand my terminology. I am a nurse and work with mentally ill people, people with dementia and people that are psychotic. The term "psychotic" is frequently used when dealing with mentally ill people. I used the term "freak" only for the OW that tried to screw up my life and is continueing to try to screw up my life. I call this OW a freak because she knows she has a bipolar disorder (I have it in writing with her admitting to being bipolar, plus she has all the symptoms of being bipolar) and refuses to get help, and to be medicated for this condition. She tells everyone she loves to feel aggressive, explosive and to have a violent nature about her because it gives her more power to deal with anything in life. That is why I call her a FREAK.

As for a renewal of a restraining order. I have to wait to get evidence of new attacks from her after the first restraining order has expired. So, starting December 17th, 2003, I have to triple my awareness of looking behind me at all times for a possible surprise attack. What a way to have to live.

Kasi

I am a nurse practitioner.

I understand your terminology perfectly.

I also understand that your hurt and outrage trumped your better judgement, and you made unpleasant judgements about the mental illness of the OW.

It's OK Kasi .... we all say mean things sometimes when we are hurting .... I am just asking you to be aware and to take care .... that some of us posting have loved ones with mental illness, or perhaps have a mental illness ourselves.

No one misunderstood your terminology, believe me, i get it.

Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Kasi,

I too understand your terminology perfectly well.

I'm a professional person with a graduate degree, and I hear psychiatric diagnoses thrown about on a regular basis in my line of work. I've worked with many young people who are 'psychotic'--as clients. Not all mentally ill people are psychotic, as I'm sure you know.

I objected mainly to your use of the word 'freak' and 'psycho' when describing a mentally ill person.

We all say things a bit roughly at times when we're upset. It's okay! I truly am sorry that this mentally ill woman added chaos to your life. Sad stuff, indeed!

Thanks for understanding,
HP