Well, Adolfo, you fooled me with the new title! I almost didn't find you!

I wouldn't say I put my "whole heart and soul" into it -- more just a friendly wave, as if he were an acquaintance.

I've ignored him whole bunches, too. I don't know what, if anything, "works."

A.M.M.

Well... my real name isn't Adolfo.

-AD

Hi!

I've "noticed" your thread for a while but I think I sucked at Plan A so I haven't visited.

I loved the title change <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

I was looking for the "next installment" of the story--while you jumped out the window and ran away, what was the cop busy with? Can anyone think of something that can lead the thread title to Plan A things?

I sucked at Plan A so I can only suggest something dumb like the cop was busy talking on the phone with his marriage coach Steve Harley <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I'm sure someone could come up with something good--maybe tell a Plan A story sentence by sentence until you get to Day 100?

Good luck! and take care

LovingBoundaries,

Thanks for stopping by and validating my thread name. Hmmm... gets me thinking about the next name.

-(still) AD

Lovingboundaries, Well, if you are having Plan A problems, maybe we can help.

AD:

On the subject <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , was it quieter be4 or after the police jumped out the window?

-2long

2long,

Yeah it was 2 quiet 4 me b4. Not like it's a roaring party now either. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks for stopping by 2day.

-AD

Thanks for the concern but NC has been in effect for a while.

I think my Plan A sucked because 1) NC didn't happen as quickly as it could have, and 2) I skimped on the last part--see actions, not just believing words, that recovery efforts would begin in earnest.

I hope you don't mind another suggestion for your thread title....

Day #/100--then the next installment

Take care

AD, i've not read all the post here and i've been absent a while.
But in your first post I noticed you mentioned depression.
Are you treating for it? Counseling? If not, take it from one who went into serious depression and it's like living in hell. don't hesitate to go for help, ask doctor for something to help you.
I know Men sometimes do not want to admit needing something, but believe me, it can make a huge difference in your feelings.
It also can keep you on track to keep you schedule on time.
At first, you may experience feeling sleepy, but that wears off in couple of weeks. OR be sure to ask doctor if there is something that will have no effect such as sleepiness.
It is normal to feel tired just for depression. And if you're trying to lose weight,make sure you advise him to that.
Hey, I lost 2 lbs a day in depression. What a way to go,huh? unfortunately, I didn't need to lose so much and became bone.
So be very careful of your health and meds.
God bless, LOU

Ok, AD, AM & LovingBoundaries.....

How are you all doing? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I see you have all been sharing your status' here in this thread.

LovingBoundaries.....plan A does not need to mean N/C. That's usually done in plan B. What are you doing in plan A and why?

L.

<small>[ June 21, 2003, 02:26 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Thanks for asking Orchid.

I am not currently in Plan A. I went back to Plan A (NC was in effect) for a different reason than ending contact.

Btw, I did not fully understand what Plan A was for and mistakenly thought it was a new lifestyle--I know better now.

I cannot post more details here, but if you want I can email you privately. In fact, I considered asking you if I could many times. It's been really hard trying to do this without the benefit of getting direct guidance and just following the stories of others who have similarities and using the advice they are given. I have made tons more mistakes than I would have otherwise.

Now there is another wrinkle in the life situation. Interested in private email? If not, I understand completely--I know you've had a lot on your own plate.

Take care Orchid

OK y'all
I have been keeping up with your thread, mainly because I admire your resolve with the public 100 day countdown. If I wasn't in Plan B I'd join in here... But your latest title really made me grin <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Here's my suggestion - "Plan A Reinforced By Local Police" (Hey, at least it would validate Plan A for those skeptics who lurk here!)

Squeak , I know how you feel about telling your MD what all's going on - I did too, and in fact, started crying before I could begin to say much. But she immediately sensed how bad it was and I didn't have to give details. Hopefully your doc is just as understanding. And as it turns out, I only needed a few to get me through my daughter's wedding.

<small>[ June 21, 2003, 09:04 PM: Message edited by: avondale25 ]</small>

LovingBoundaries,

My e-mail addy: mborchid@hotmail.com <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I am not the plan A expert. There are many here who explain it much better. But I will help where I can.

take care,
L.

<small>[ June 21, 2003, 11:16 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Disgusting, odious experience! I attended a dinner at a fund-raising event, and who should plop down next to me with a plate of food -- yes! OW's son-in-law. (Invited by an unwitting friend who hadn't made the connection...son-in-law didn't have the good taste to realize I was trapped in a situation I hadn't chosen...hence, sat down next to me rather than in a more considerate place) Grabbed me by the hand during the dinner and said he was glad I was doing so well. I looked blank and said, "Thank you." Pursued me after the dinner to say good night...I was polite. Gee! they debauch my husband, defile my marriage, destroy my home and my family -- and now this!

Oh well, even having H and OW out-of-town is no relief. Saw him again tonight. I suppose he's still surprised I'm doing "so well." What should I do? Curl up and die! H and OW return tomorrow, I believe. I know little of their plans. Egads!

What I learned from this experience: not to feel embarrassed to get up and leave, politely, even with a plate of food already served, rather than have an evening trashed by these kinds of accidental encounters. Life is too short.

<small>[ June 22, 2003, 01:13 AM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

Avondale, I like your suggested title! How about "I lost my cookies at fundraising dinner!"

<small>[ June 22, 2003, 01:12 AM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

Happy wedding anniversary today! My H sent an email about an online utilities bill to celebrate. It could have been written by a computer.

I just replied with "Happy anniversary." No exclamation point. An LB? Perhaps. On the other hand, it could just be read neutrally, as a pleasantry. Or even as a sincere wish. But it, too, could have been written by a computer...

<small>[ June 25, 2003, 05:03 PM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

Where did everybody go? Was it something I said?
(Just kidding.)

Actually, if anyone could give me some feedback on bizarre anniversary behavior. The password on the account he was describing WAS our wedding anniversary -- so no way could he have forgotten.

An attempt to show me he didn't care? An excuse for contact? Prodding me for a reaction? Or what?

<small>[ June 25, 2003, 05:01 PM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ladyLou:
<strong>
But in your first post I noticed you mentioned depression.
Are you treating for it? Counseling? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LadyLou,

Sorry to take so long to respond.

No, I'm not being treated for depression.
I think I am depressed, but it's really not too bad.

I have considered it - and when I had my hands on some Prozac a year or two ago, I took it for awhile but didn't notice any effect. Probably I was too cautious and took too small a dose.

BTW. One of my neighbors is a Psychaitrist (and we have another friend who is one too). Perhaps he could treat me informally - but I'd rather not get into personal stuff with him. I'd rather just have him as a neighbor.

-AD

Update - at last. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well, I've been AWOL from MB for a few days.

I've been working a lot of overtime and trying to be good and not waste time on the internet at work.

Things have been up and down.

Honestly, I don't think I'm really doing Plan A anymore. I've really slipped. Right now, I'm pretty tired since I've been working til 2am most nights recently and then coming home for about 4-5 hours sleep. Yesterday I didn't go back to work after dinner and crashed at about 9pm. Still I'm sleepy.

This morning, I did a really stupid LB - hard to explain but I guess 99% of people (including my W) would be offended. She was telling me about something. I thought her reasoning was based on something short of the absolute truth and went off a little lecture about TRUTH and uttered the words "Pack of Lies". Actually, she was not talking about anything terribly important and her truth was at least as close to *the truth* as mine was. In short, I was completely off my rocker. Its embarrassing.

<sigh>

-AD

A.M.Martin,

I'm amazed that you are still sticking with this thread. I must appologise for being inattentive.

I'm sorry about the fund-raising dinner. You continue to amaze me! I don't think I could deal with what you are dealing with.

-AD