The neighbors comment could be so true. It sounds like its very possible.
I have a fried I talk to.
Her saying is:
He is good son.
He is a good father.
He is a good worker.
That summed it up!

I bet his mom would think he was never this way, but hey, we got married at 22.
Needless to say, she doesn't even know all the things her dear son was doing at her house with his girlfriend right under her nose. But, if she chooses to believe he was a saint, I guess she is just being a mom.

I too agree, she shouldn't really get too involved with my 12 year old, but she could have said I don't agree, or understand, but I will always love my son. Something to that effect.

I appreciate your replies, they are always comforting to me.
KEB