</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cerri:
<strong>There was a brief line about how Brian became very depressed, not suicidal but deeply depressed.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Only you would remember ALL the little details like this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by cerri:
<strong>One of the sidebars on today's link had some info on moving forward and looking back to see where the progress really occured.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I will look back and see where that is, I thought I read all the side bars but maybe I mised some. As you know Cerri, I obviously need help in the "moving forward" part of recovery.

Thanks

ALL recovery lasts a lifetime, is three steps forward and two steps back (on a good day) and needs to be done one day at a time.

I'll see if I can find that sidebar for you.

C

Here ya go....

http://www.startribune.com/stories/389/3867773.html

C

Cerri thanks for the link. I did read that I just got too wrapped up in work and spaced the article. I will read it again tonight and maybe make a list of some of the little things W and I can do for eachother.

BTW- she is back home again.

bumping for a friend

Great series!

It sounds pretty "real" to me. I really understood Brian's crazy state of mind.

If I were in his shoes, I would have gone for full custody, asked for big child-support and alimony (in a 15 year marriage, he could have gotten it.)

The SAHD part is a bit unusual. I suppose they chose this couple (if they are real) to be more PC.

One thing that I felt differently about. I never felt like hurting my W physically. I projected almost all of my anger toward the OM.

-AD

<small>[ May 27, 2003, 10:25 AM: Message edited by: AD ]</small>

AD- I too have never held any anger toward my W for the A, I always held my anger towards the OM. I told my counselor about it and she thought it was odd that I felt that way. At least I am not the only one.

Interesting tid bit of info here: I heard on the radio this week that Mens Health magazine did an article on the cost of an affair. I guess it said the average financial cost of an A is $18,000. By the time you figure in gifts to the OP, counseling and Dv lawyers. That is the average cost financially, of course the cost emotionally can never be measured.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I too have never held any anger toward my W for the A, I always held my anger towards the OM. I told my counselor about it and she thought it was odd that I felt that way. At least I am not the only one.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I feel more or less the same, if that is any consolation. I do feel some anger occasionally about specific things as they happen (or I find out), or when I see the effect on our D, but when I think about the A, all anger is directed towards OM